I am afraid of using Facebook! (Few friends)

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I have about 40 people on facebook, and most of them i know quite well, and i speak with them from time to time, but i have a friend who i know in person, she has about 120 but i never see her talk to anyone because she's too busy with school and her other friends are too busy too, but then again i wonder how someone could maintain contact with over a 100 people :o I think it is oke to have less then like 60 friends on facebook, i never judge people on the amount of ''friends'' they have on facebook, i mean its better to have 5 super good friends/family then a 100 people you barely know right, i mean thats just my personal view :o The people i have on facebook right now are people i've met over the years mostly online and even though they're busy i have bonds with them so i feel no need to delete them even if we can't speak for a long time, anyway like i said thats just my view and opinion, i hope it helps ><

Have a nice day.

As far as I am aware, you cannot control who posts and reads on your wall. However, you can control whether they are allowed to post on your wall. Personally, if lots of people are doing this i would set it to not allow this and let them message you instead.

@techstepscientist Thanks for the reply! That clarifies a lot.

I will actually never understand why a site like Facebook became popular. You either make an account and become the North Korea of Facebook or everyone knows everything about your life. There are a few tedious ways of controlling who can see what and who can read what. And even so there are still limitations to that! And what a waste of time trying to decide who should view what! People now start so many fights on Facebook because person A can view pics that person B can't view.

People today now judge you based on what they see on Facebook and what you "Liked" and who your friends are and how many you have. If you don't post any pictures you are considered even if you have better ways of spending your time. Relationships are no longer official unless you post them on Facebook. And people now judge you based on how many friends you have and who is cool or interesting based on that site. And I really don't understand why more and more sites want you to login using Facebook.

Facebook is a waste of time. Im not saying this because I am bitter and barely have any friends on FB while I view the profiles of other people I met in school or college and see how happy their lives are and look at them wasting their time on their walls responding to each other and bonding online and all the happy moments they have with their friends or loved ones. It has no long or short term benefits and its stupid that society puts pressure on people who dont like it.

personally i have one still on there. but i delete it little by little (deactivated right now). i found a website posting saying that facebook is leading people to more of a death sentence after realizing what their main problem really is. people go on for attention and it's not good. google+ makes things your own way and keep out aggravation. there is gonna be something to delete facebook off the web for good. but not right now. it's a manifest in there. like bugs coming in, not good. but suit yourself on your own opinion.

I had made one account for my family, friends and office colleagues i deleted that account today there is setting to permanently delete the account and if we deactivate then the profile still remains but with permanent deletion its gone forever.

There was lot negativity and it was getting painful. If i wished someone happy birthday they will thank all others who wished them but wont thank me back.

My sis in law would delibrately add photos of our cousins visiting them and she knew very well that they wont be visiting me it hurt more.

My office colleagues wont add me and they would add each other and go out socialising and putting up pics so there was no sense in lingering over on facebook like a loser

You can make it so nobody can see your friend list or how many friends you have on Facebook except for yourself.

see that's terrible what's the point of Facebook when you get hurt by others on it. i agree with you. people on there are just ignorant baster-

ads that care about themselves which is kind of pathetic.

nah that's a waste of time. the old fashion way was meeting people in public. not this social network stuff. i only do it to look up news. i pretty

much use Google+ does anyone use that?

I researched it and apparently it's doing so to connect accounts from websites using the same domain. to be honest that's ret*d. well

everywhere you go to sometimes they ask if you have a Facebook. i say ask them back to hear their answer.

the people whom i avoid and run from in real life i have to add on facebook as a act of diplomacy and tolerate their nonsense....

ok?

Explain this one then?

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Explain this one then? [/quote]
deleted that one got frustrated with it hell with diplomacy

You don´t have to be afraid of Facebook, if you learn how to use it in a way that it would actually serve you, not harm you. It is a perfect place for Aspies created by the alleged Aspie. You don´t have to interact with flash-and-bones people there, you just post your thoughts there and answer your friends questions. There, you are all equal because you ALL have to guess what the other person is thinking. It´s not just the AS (for once)

The only problem with Facebook is that they store everything you have ever written or posted there (datas, photos, other stuff). If you post something overly radical there, like some quotes about wanting to kill somebody or things like that, it could be used against you in the future. It´s the same with Twitter.

There was this story about a girl that jokingly wrote on her FB wall that she plans a bomb attack in the US. Then she really flew to America, but was detained at the US borders and subsequently sent back where she came from, because the government had the access to her FB or Twitter account, and they flashed her own (printed) comments at her. So be careful about that.

Also never ever post some naked or otherwise controversial photos of yourself or your family members. It is the same case.

You know, it is the same with fire - Facebook is a good servant but a bad master. But if you know how to use it, it can be to a benefit for you.

You can find new friends there, and FB also sends you friend suggestions based on the details you wrote about yourself, so you could meet same-minded people. I would not be overly afraid of it, if I were you. It can help people like us. And then, who knows? You could meet some of the people you met online in the real life as well! Many great friendships or even relationships started like this.

Good advice, and there are other social media platforms that can have similar margins of safety. In my case the axiom "achievement is really the combination of preparation and opportunity" was an influence So when I was quite ill I said yes to some very unexpected and significant opportunities. I took the risk of doing these things when i was recovering from illness. They did not cause massive harm but getting my computer hacked did. Many negative disruptive messages and posts were made at that time. Several people unfriended me on Linkedin after that, but stayed on Facebook connection to my fb account. One person offered me an opportunity and another an interview, yet they all reacted with avoidance after the fb hacking incident. So, those that did that were possibly hurt and that bothers me and therefore i am very cautious. I might even unfriend the people in question because maybe they interpret our connection as negative.. Yet it is nearly impossible to completely retract a posting.