zeldazonk wrote:
BuyerBeware wrote:
Yup. I have one of those. She's a complete and total b***h...
...and my therapist says I should fire her.
I'm afraid to. I'm pretty sure she's a lot of the reason that I'm as high-functioning as I am.
EXACTLY! I'm sure I wouldn't be nearly as high functioning without this monitor.
It's a huge pay off though - I feel like I live in a straight jacket and it's
extremely exhausting watching myself and making sure I'm behaving properly all the time.
So exhausting that I now have chronic fatigue as I've mentioned before.
I think it breeds resentment too, to never just be yourself.
Problem is, it's now such a habit I can't just decide to "drop it".
I don't think I feel safe without it.
Thanks for all replies, Zel.
Yup-- Definitely exhausting. Hubby says it shows, that the more I listen to that "voice," actually, the weirder I seem. I don't believe him. I don't think he has a clue about the extent to which "that voice" tells me what to do (or more accurately, what to NOT do, which is just about everything). It is safe. It is also incredibly stressful.
I don't think "normal" people know what it feels like to, actually, like yourself, and to simply deny yourself the privilege of putting that liking into action.
I suspect I would enjoy socializing a lot more without the jackbooted drill sergeant...
...if anyone ever wanted to socialize with me.
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"Alas, our dried voices when we whisper together are quiet and meaningless, as wind in dry grass, or rats' feet over broken glass in our dry cellar." --TS Eliot, "The Hollow Men"