I lost the love of my life because of being an aspie

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Do NOT give up!! She's still talking to you - that's a good sign!!

My Aspie has said some horrific things to me/about me over the 18 months we've been together so far. There have been several times I thought there was no way I could continue in the relationship, but I have learned to recognize when his "Aspie-ness" is in full swing and the things he's saying are just words, NOT how he truly feels. It's taken quite a while, but he's progressed to the point where now he'll come to me and apologize, tell me that he loves me, values me and truly did not mean the things he said. Not only did that help me, but I think in the long run, it's helped him as well, as his outbursts have become less and less frequent.

I know you'd probably rather have eye surgery with a rusty nail and no anesthesia, but find a way to communicate with her, face to face, and let her know what's on your heart - that you're sorry, that it's difficult for you to find the "right" words to say (and that sometimes, the "wrong" words come out instead), that you love her and value her and that you would very much like for her to give you another chance. She needs to understand where you're coming from in this. If she doesn't know/understand about your Aspie ways, she can't fully forgive and love because she's not fully informed. Open up and let her in. My Aspie did, and it made all the difference. I wish you all the best.

I'm really terrified this is going to happen with me and my boyfriend. I am naturally a very affectionate person, and I tend to crave the same level of affection. Being in a long distance relationship with a potential aspie can be so hard sometimes that it makes me want to rip my hair out. It's hard enough that he's never around because he's away at school, but he doesn't seem to get that I need little reminders here and there that he still cares about me. I've tried very hard to be patient and understanding, but I'm in this relationship, too. If he is like this for a specific reason, like AS, I'm totally fine with that, as long as I know that's it. If he's just a selfish jerk, that's another story. His school term is ending today, so hopefully things will improve. I have my own apartment, my own job and my own life, so it's not a matter of being overly needy and clingy. But, as a grown woman, I do have needs. I just hope he understands that.

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I've been at the breaking point many times, so I know how she feels. If things do not work out with this girl, I wish you all the best in finding someone who truly understands you and cares about you.

BUT that's how you are. If your partner left you because of who you are, then that's a good thing. What will you do, pretend to be someone else and have a person fall in love with a character that you created in your head? So, in other words, you have to pretend to be someone else to make someone stay? That's doesn't make any sense!! !! !! ! Surely, that other person refused to be someone else other than just themself. It was their true self who could not get along with you, not somebody they created in their head. Get over it!! Either a couple is compatible or not - there's no such thing as FORCED compatibility! Suppose you were a lawyer and owned a firm and met a girl who hated lawyers, what are you going to do?! !
Give up your practice?! Look, as far as that person is concerned, GOOD RIDDANCE!! !
She didn't change for you, so why should you change for her!