OKCupid status update
I was on a year disabled my account at least 3 times and was finally going to accept that I would be merely improving my communication skills and not find anyone but on a whim they decided to extend their search area and found me. We now talk on the phone and are meeting IRL soon.
So that's proof it can happen
Yay! Excellent story!
MXH
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Aw, MXH, I think you're physically *very* lovely, almost ethereally so, and I'm sure there are age-appropriate girls that are into that lean, sinewy look. It's probably not your looks that are weighing you down, maybe you don't put yourself out there enough (so that people can see the real you)? It's a very hard and very subtle thing to do (I have given up, more or less), but from what I've read here you seem interesting, come from an educated family, straddle many cultures, etc.
Well, seeing how nobody stays long enough around me to get to see the real me i have to narrow it down to what they did see about me before walking off. Which was physical looks
curlyfry
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I was on a year disabled my account at least 3 times and was finally going to accept that I would be merely improving my communication skills and not find anyone but on a whim they decided to extend their search area and found me. We now talk on the phone and are meeting IRL soon.
So that's proof it can happen
Yay! Excellent story!
It's seems surreal actually. I even mentioned that I'm on the spectrum and he wasn't phased a bit. He was actually worried he was too geeky to keep my attention and come to find out that's what helps keeps my attention. LOL
Well, I STILL haven't mustered up the courage to message anyone. I literally just can't think of anything to talk about with the ones who look interesting. Any confidence I had after curlyfry's opinions on my profile was quick to evaporate right out the window.
Even further of a confidence-killer was reading this article about profile pictures. It's bad enough I don't have many photos of myself, but I not only have none of what they say work, I just don't feel comfortable not smiling in a picture. This is aside from the fact that I'm uncomfortable in pictures period.
Have someone agree to sneak and take a picture of you when you aren't paying attention. That way, you'll get the not smiling, not looking at the camera, doing something interesting, and not being self-conscious all in one go...assuming you aren't constantly randomly smiling throughout the day and your photographer doesn't catch you sleeping or using the bathroom or something.
Personally, I feel very unsafe putting up a picture on this particular website (also for something in the OkTrends blog), but I don't think it matters since I rarely got any messages even when I did have some.