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Jupiter1234
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07 May 2012, 9:54 pm

Do you think it is easier for quiet aspies to make friends compared to the more talkative ones ...why?



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07 May 2012, 10:09 pm

Perhaps. I have always been pretty quiet. Some people find this creepy/suspicious, but a lot (especially women) find this appealing because they think that I'm a good listener. Only if they knew... :lol:


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07 May 2012, 10:32 pm

No... not in my experience.



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07 May 2012, 10:34 pm

^ not in mine, either.



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08 May 2012, 4:51 am

No.
Well, not for males - in my experience.
... Although, friendships with females are marginally easier than friendships with other males IMHO



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12 May 2012, 10:11 pm

Hard to say really, I guess it just depends on your social adeptness; talkative aspies who don't do well with social cues are probably more likely to make mistakes which prevent budding friendship than those who keep quiet, however, if you're too quiet you can go completely unnoticed, which obviously doesn't make any friends either. I guess it's just a balance. Being extremely quiet myself, I can't say from experience whether or not my being more vibrant would have made me any more friends than I have currently.


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10 Jul 2012, 10:36 pm

I don't necessarily think that it is easy for all quiet aspies. I was befriended by several older, very social classmates (I am a girl btw). The majority of my social skills I learned from them. I don't do so well by myself, though.


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10 Jul 2012, 10:40 pm

I made friends, and I'm coming to the conclusion I'm quite socially oblivious. I'd say it's easier to make friends...and easier to make enemies. So that's your issue.