two mistakes/lessons I learned from online dating

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<----This baby seal is a 10/10 on the cute scale.

By the way I also said "below average" in the first post meaning semi-ugly.

Last edited by Venger on 29 May 2012, 7:06 am, edited 1 time in total.

The thing I learned was to stay away from online dating, or simply to avoid other people at all.

Depends on the definition of deception........I would call anything that doctored the truth a deception (though not necessarily a serious one).....the truth in this context would be a random photo, or set of photos. As soon as the "vendor" selects the nicest shot, that's distorting the truth. Where would science be if it was considered OK to fix the data like that? Basically, if you ever use hair dye or mascara, you are lying. You do not really look like that.

Not that I'm equating it with a dangerously dishonest personality, or recommending that anybody really uses a random photo for these things. Everybody else is cheating just the same, like peacocks pretending to be bigger by fanning their tail feathers. I'm just saying don't overdo it. If all goes well, they'll see for themselves what you really look like eventually. You don't want them to be disappointed at that crucial moment.

I'm also saying that I don't like it the way it is. I'd be happier in a world where pathological honesty was revered, where fakes went out of business.

Of course but there are other ways of getting initial attraction without having a high degree of aesthetics or having film star looks but that involves having a high social value in a social circle or having extremely good game in a social circle which is going to be unlikely for someone on the spectrum.



Exactly, people become more selective when they have a greater selection of choice, it's only natural for them to want the better, if someone took you to a car show room and showed you a line of cars, you'd most likely go for the top end cars. I think if the tables were turned, men would also be selective.

Experiments conducted with speed dating have shown that if women were the ones who had to make the first move, they cared less about social status, income, confidence, "chemistry" and so on, but still cared about looks. So yes, if the tables are turned, women will look for the same criterias as men. The men in the tests (who were passive) cared more about social status, career and all that—and were more likely to reject a woman for other reasons than lack of physical attraction.

I object!

it depends. The new Fiats, much like Minis and SMART cars are so different from all the big honkin' vehicles on the US roads that I always notice them..

I always thought the biggest selling point in speed dating was "charisma." Look up Derren Brown - Confidence. That's a great episode to watch when it comes to speed dating tips - of course when the tip is, "Get yourself hypnotized by an expert mind manipulator," then you might be screwed if you don't have one of those in your back pocket.

Pretend to be the guy your not to bed the girl , sounds logical to me