is this considered rude?

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so my friend recently brought these points to my attention (I don't realize that I do these things)

my friends point if view--when having a conversation with someone, I tend to just walk away with out saying any thing. (my point of view--the conversation is boring and a waist if my time)

friends POV-- I look at the ground a lot (my POV-- looking at people's face is weird, and I get distracted by stuff on the ground)

friends POV-- I always look sad (my POV-- I'm thinking)

also, around lunchtime I'm emotionally drained and I tend to have sensory overloads from the loud cafeteria, causing shutdowns,so I don't talk to people and I kind of zone out.

*note: I don't plan on telling my friends about aspergers*

so, are these things considered rude? And how can I change them?

1. If you don't tell them about your Asperger's, then they will only consider you rude.

2. If you tell them about your Asperger's, then they will think you are weird and still think you are rude.

Therefore, try to get yourself to a place in which you don't really care what other people think.

my friends point if view--when having a conversation with someone, I tend to just walk away with out saying any thing.
Yes its rude try to lissen for a few minutes then make an excuse to leave, such as sorry Im realy hungry and my feet hurt I need to set down. Or I need to use the rest room.

I look at the ground a lot
Its critical to nts to think you're looking at thair faces when you talk to them "aparantly thier ears dont work with out thair eyes" if it eye contact that bugs you look at thier mouth nose or cheak.

I always look sad
Smile at lest when you first talk to people you know, nts tend to feel you dont like them If you dont or your depessed.

around lunchtime I'm emotionally drained and I tend to have sensory overloads from the loud cafeteria, causing shutdowns,so I don't talk to people and I kind of zone out.
Find away to take lunch in a quieter place away from people. Excuses it was such a nice day figued Id get some son or trying to cut cost so I brown bag it and eat at you desk.

*note: I don't plan on telling my friends about aspergers*

If you dont plan on telling them you will find that you have to fake who you are all the time to fit in and you will never quite fit in. Ask some one who none of his friends realy know.

Trust me, I get the "You always look sad" thing alot too. It bugs me.

Why do our quirks stand out so blatantly to NT and why do they on our cases about them.

Walking away silently is rude. Your reasoning is understandable, but still rude.
I look at the ground a lot too. Not rude. When walking or in conversation.
Looking sad? My neutral face just looks sad/mad. Not rude.
I also do the same thing with the emotional drainage and lunch. I too prefer having solitary lunches at school. If someone offers to sit and talk, I don't turn it down, though. Well... I did once.

The only thing I would consider "rude" after being taught so many times is the first one, the other ones are only "rude" if a person is easily offended. Although they've done studies on how powerful a smile can be. I for one don't smile all that often and people think I'm sad, but really.. I'm more content than a lot of the people I know.. I just don't smile all the time.

Honestly though, I get not everybody feels like I do on this (I'm proud of who I am- I got a custom made hat that says "Autistic and proud" and let people know about the other things that make me, me) but if your friends wouldn't accept you for who you really are, they're not friends, they're jerks who use you... It's taken me a LONG time to realize that (around 25 years.. I'm 27 now,) but I understand now, and I hope you realize you're worth being around while being yourself.