Arguing for the sake of arguing

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So, I was at my grandma's earlier, and mentioned that I needed paper towels. My grandma said there were some in her utility closet. When I went back to find them, I couldn't. So, my grandma came back there and she pointed them out to me. I said something along the lines of, "no wonder I didn't see them, they were under that pile of crap." Then, my mom said I was being mean and shouldn't talk to my grandma that way. But, the paper towels were under a pile of stuff, so I thought I was just stating the obvious and then my mom thought I was just being difficult. My parents are always saying I'm being intentionally difficult and that I just argue for the sake of arguing, even though I'm usually only trying to explain my side. Anyone else have this issue?

Not me, but I have two words: Huffington Post.

Before when my family said 'you might have Asperger's' and I said 'no I don't" this used to happen a lot more often. I think arguments are a waste of time so why would I want to? But since I've accepted AS before them and explained why I do what I sometimes do it's gotten a little easier, or maybe it's just a lot less than the typical 'end of the world' when they say 'I need a break' and I hear 'I never want to see you again'

Maybe if you said "No wonder I didn't see them, they were under that pile of stuff" there be no argument there from your mother.

Crap has a negative meaning I think so it will be taken the wrong way. But mom has always called my stuff crap too and called my worn out shoes crappy shoes. That is how they all talk in my home so I talk that way too. I call my sons toys stuff kindercrap. My mom hates it and so does my husband. But I never mean nothing bad by it. I just find the term funny.

My mom also thinks I argue but not like this. She understands. She thinks I argue when I don't like the answer I get when all I am doing is asking questions about their answer. She also thinks I argue because I have the right to disagree. I don't know what else. I just always argued my whole life lol. Asking questions is also seen as arguing. Mom knows I don't do it on purpose. My dad has never said anything about it. I just say I like to argue or else I would always keep my mouth shut.

to put it bluntly, it's a dick-measuring contest, and it sadly comes in more forms than you could imagine.

I tend to stir up arguments with my mum. Like when she twists about in front of the mirror being unsure if what she's wearing ''looks funny'' or not, and then she asks me and I just yell, ''I hate answering that question so I am not answering it!'' Then an arguments starts up because I hate hearing those words ''does this look funny?'' I'm like ''WHAT DO YOU MEAN 'LOOK FUNNY'?! IF THAT 'LOOKS FUNNY' THEN WHAT THE HELL DOESN'T?! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !''

I don't have this issue. Other people have this issue.

So yes. I find that:
If someone is "wrong", they are more easily insulted.
If you are direct, but this information offers no direct benefit for someone, this is hurtful/blunt.
We require more specific instructions in unknown situations and it takes time to understand how others explain things. Get to know them.
It's easier to let someone else screw up. (Are you sure it's in there, I don't see it? I would rather not mess up your system to find X)

And yes, the word crap was probably overly negative. Then again, "being difficult"? If I got that attitude from family members, I would probably end up showing less respect for how they view things. Not that this helps of course.