Are autie and aspie guys seen as "faux nice guys"

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21 Jul 2012, 11:59 pm

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

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22 Jul 2012, 2:47 am

hale_bopp wrote:

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

I am

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22 Jul 2012, 2:56 am

hale_bopp wrote:

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

Not at all, I am direct and truthful in my approach, I don't suck up or ego stroke and I'm certainly no white knight.

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22 Jul 2012, 3:47 am

Wolfheart wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

Not at all, I am direct and truthful in my approach, I don't suck up or ego stroke and I'm certainly no white knight.

That doesnt mean that you arent respectfull to them.

As long as your intentions are clear from the first moment you are being more respectful to the other person than quite a lot of people they´ll meet on daily basis

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23 Jul 2012, 2:11 pm

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Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

No because I give respect to those who show me the same level of respect.
I wouldn't pursue a relationship unless both parties were on the same page.

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23 Jul 2012, 4:08 pm

I think I am always a disapointment to anyone in a realtionship. Great when its new but after that I have no idea how to maintain it

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23 Jul 2012, 8:40 pm

I was thinking this just this very moment, what a load of cock why would some one be nice if their was not something in it for them ?

PS I'm rubbish don't read me.

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23 Jul 2012, 9:07 pm

Wolfheart wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

Not at all, I am direct and truthful in my approach, I don't suck up or ego stroke and I'm certainly no white knight.

this plus add that im nice to everyone, not just someone im attracted to.

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23 Jul 2012, 9:33 pm

Why pick on the men I feel that way about many of the women here to .

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23 Jul 2012, 11:35 pm

I'm a faux nice guy.

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26 Jul 2012, 7:12 pm

One of many cliches. It truly comes down to the individual person. Some may be this way and not realize it.

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26 Jul 2012, 7:14 pm

chessimprov wrote:

One of many cliches. It truly comes down to the individual person. Some may be this way and not realize it.

I like to think this is more the case. Many of them really do think they are being a nice guy, simply for having (usually) pleasant thoughts and attempting to please people a lot.

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26 Jul 2012, 10:08 pm

I didn't know that aspies were considered overly optimistic people in general. Some research links would always be helpful, because personally I have no idea either way.

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27 Jul 2012, 5:40 am

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I didn't know that aspies were considered overly optimistic people in general. Some research links would always be helpful, because personally I have no idea either way.

Oh my, yes.
It's namely a trend to look on good things rather than not.

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27 Jul 2012, 5:48 am

MXH wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?

Not at all, I am direct and truthful in my approach, I don't suck up or ego stroke and I'm certainly no white knight.

this plus add that im nice to everyone, not just someone im attracted to.

Exactly, if you treat all with fairness and equality, you aren't being a nice guy with an ulterior motive, you are being someone that is simply kind natured and treating others the way you want to be treated.

Some laws go too far in my opinion and people can jump to assumptions over someone just being good or kind natured, holding a door open for a woman can be considered patronizing or sexist in the United Kingdom.

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27 Jul 2012, 6:03 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Some laws go too far in my opinion and people can jump to assumptions over someone just being good or kind natured, holding a door open for a woman can be considered patronizing or sexist in the United Kingdom.

Not all of them think that, most are rather privileged. What kind of women are you seeing?

Not one women has said that it's patronizing or sexist to leave the door open when they are approaching the entrance.

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