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AJ89
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04 Aug 2012, 11:54 pm

I am a loner.

I don't even feel sad because of this or lonely either and most of the time I want to be alone. However, I will get depressed for a short time if someone ridicules me for not having a social life.

I have some people who are friendly to me and I can become friends with them but I don't pursue friendship with them even though I could, because I'd rather be alone.

I guess you could call me an extreme introvert.



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05 Aug 2012, 12:35 am

I am too, excepting for family activities and some job activities



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05 Aug 2012, 12:47 am

AJ89 wrote:
I am a loner.

I don't even feel sad because of this or lonely either and most of the time I want to be alone. However, I will get depressed for a short time if someone ridicules me for not having a social life.

I have some people who are friendly to me and I can become friends with them but I don't pursue friendship with them even though I could, because I'd rather be alone.

I guess you could call me an extreme introvert.


you'll probably will like other autistic people if you can find them.



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05 Aug 2012, 12:52 am

I am too. I rather the companionship of my xbox and TV and sketch pad and pencils than people I find they are to hard and complicated to understand for me.



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05 Aug 2012, 3:07 am

I like the idea of being half of a couple but, crash & burn, the reality is I am a one-man show. A small sprinkling of work acquaintances in modest doses has always done fine by me.


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05 Aug 2012, 3:21 am

paxfilosoof wrote:
AJ89 wrote:
I am a loner.

I don't even feel sad because of this or lonely either and most of the time I want to be alone. However, I will get depressed for a short time if someone ridicules me for not having a social life.

I have some people who are friendly to me and I can become friends with them but I don't pursue friendship with them even though I could, because I'd rather be alone.

I guess you could call me an extreme introvert.


you'll probably will like other autistic people if you can find them.


I am like this, too. Was a real loner for a long time after I dropped out of secondary school, then in my early 20s, I got this itch to socialise and perhaps make some friends... aaand that didn't really lead to anything. I tried to join activites that related to my interests and hobbies, but I didn't necessarily get along with anyone well enough to hit off a good friendship. And after a while, I got jaded with all of it, and now I'm perfectly comfortable being a loner.

I ALSO go to this monthly autistic meeting frequently, but I don't find I get along better with folks there, than I do outside of it. It's all right, though, but it certainly hasn't led to friendships.


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05 Aug 2012, 3:25 am

Yes. Sort of by default, though, really.



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05 Aug 2012, 3:32 am

I do have friends, but I would say I am a loner.



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05 Aug 2012, 4:39 am

I don't have any friends and I probably don't deserve them either.



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05 Aug 2012, 4:43 am

I am a loner.

In sixth grade a teacher even wrote in a report about me "She is a loner" in big letters and circled it and underlined it a few times to emphasize it.

Now it's mostly by choice but back then it wasn't really fair to say that. I had no choice but to be a loner because I was badly bullied and everyone hated me.



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05 Aug 2012, 5:10 am

redrobin62 wrote:
I don't have any friends and I probably don't deserve them either.


Everyone deserves at least one good friend redrobin...... But i will emphasise good friend.
Good friends with good morals help us grow in the world.

Though some people here tend to think outside of the autistic spectrum there are only a few types of people, there are millions.

Be open to different things...try something new once a month, go outside your comfort One and you will soon make good friends.

Peace



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05 Aug 2012, 5:17 am

Yes, I'm loner.

anything wrong in this?


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05 Aug 2012, 5:53 am

I am a loner too i guess. Haven't made any friends in 6 years, before that in High School and Junior High i both had one friend i liked. Outside of that i got a group of friendly people who i do a sport with sometimes, but to say there are friends? No. Probably number one thing that made me realise that i'm a loner was this one time where i got invited by a girl to hang out with her and her friends. Those were some cool and accepting people but i went there once and never returned. :?



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05 Aug 2012, 6:30 am

paxfilosoof wrote:
AJ89 wrote:
I am a loner.

I don't even feel sad because of this or lonely either and most of the time I want to be alone. However, I will get depressed for a short time if someone ridicules me for not having a social life.

I have some people who are friendly to me and I can become friends with them but I don't pursue friendship with them even though I could, because I'd rather be alone.

I guess you could call me an extreme introvert.


you'll probably will like other autistic people if you can find them.



This, however it is not always the case..


I am a loner.. I like my own company and require 'alone time' to recover from social activities.. saying this however I do enjoy company of like mind poeple but only two-three at a time


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05 Aug 2012, 9:58 am

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05 Aug 2012, 10:34 pm

I've always been a loner.
I deal with people only when I have to.
I don't let many people get too close to me. I need my space, dammit!

I've found through trial and error that most people cause more stress than I need.
Most people cause drama. I don't need that. I don't like it.
I'm perfectly content spending Friday nights at home, with my workout equipment, or my computer, or a book, or something.
But it does bother me when people think I should be pitied.
Why pity me if I'm content?
I am much happier now than when I attempted to have a normal social life.
Which just caused me stress.

Nothing wrong with being a loner. :D