Do other Aspie girls ask guys out?

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Well, I've really enjoyed hearing your points of view - you have opened up a lot of new things for me to consider! It's been great to have someone openly share a lot of things that some AS sufferers try and avoid entirely, and I certainly think you'll be successful in the dating game!! I might not agree with all of your views (I do agree with some of them though), but I think it is also good for other followers to get an all round perspective - and yours was very well stated. Great chat.

On the other hand, I can't wait to check back with you once I've read "Asperger meets girl" to get some more new insights - and plus, my views may change when I actually start actively dating. It's all part of the fun

Good luck to you too!!

I think part of the issue might be location. NTs might got to clubs, bars, and other social gathering places with the sole intention of meeting someone. The mere fact that the girls are there, dolled up, means that NT guys are likely to interact with them. I don't know whether it's all male aspies or just me, but I am no more, if not a little less likely, to converse with strangers in this setting. But even some NTs need the social lubricant.

What I'm saying is that there are places that are generally understood to be places where one might find a partner. In these places, people might even expect interaction. If you ask in the wrong place or at the wrong time, your chances of success are lower (I'm guessing purely statistically).

If a girl started talking to a guy at a coffee place, I think we all agree this is not outside the realms of the normal. If she did it at a cricket match or on the tube, she might get a less enthusiastic response.

These locational variables may not be considered by someone with AS, so they are literally looking for love in all the wrong places.

LOL - trying to talk to a guy during a cricket game or during a football match = amusing mental image
Sorry for stereotyping, but you do make a good point!

Funnily enough that precise sentiment is addressed in Asperger meets girl MisterSpock.

The writer of the book states that clubs/bars might not be the ideal places for aspies to meet new people as they are generally crowded/loud and, as you said, a certain form of social (NT) conduct is expected there.
I personally don't really have an opinion either way and believe 'love' can happen anywhere and any time but I dó believe it is true that people at a bar/club might be more in the mindset of 'meeting new people' than as you mentioned the tube or a cricket match. Whether this is true or not is debatable and in the worst case it just means there is an extra 'hurdle' to overcome; nothing dealbreaking per se.

Go to a library, there's some inspiration of how you can meet like minded people most of the time.

if only more did so

Yes I do ask guys out but rarely guys I know in person. Typically off of dating sites, I have more confidence. In person, my confidence drops drastically. I went through a phase where I was asking out tons of guys, most said yes. Well none worked out...err. I came stopped the online dating thing out of fustration. I've resumed the online dating thing however my approach is a lot less aggressive. I tried to tone it down. Once I figured out how to date. It was hard to not jump at things cause I'd rather be the one doing the chasing then being the one chased. Heres the thing, if a guy has to I guess "chase" me then normally I'm not that interested. When you run into those situations of being chased and the guy just thinks your playing hard to get, its annoying.

f**k gender roles!

I wouldn´t dare.

I've "asked out" (or been the first to confess attraction to or whatever else you want to call it) almost every guy I've ever liked. Which is about .. uh.. 6 people?

I DO ask guys out. And I read this wonderful book about dating rules called "Dating Mr Darcy", in which is clearly stated that a girl should not ask a guy out, but merely give him a nod, wink or other encouraging sign to approach to her.

The author says that most guys in general love the phase of hunting. If you rob Him of it, He will feel LESS agitated and motivated in dating you.

A guy needs to have the feeling that you are hard to get, even if you are not. He must think that he is the hunter. Because if he must hunt for something and if it is not easy to get, then it is a sign for him it has a WORTH and that it is worth fighting for it.

The author also says that you should not play hard to get or be slu*ty. Just progress slowly. That´s what she says.