ruveyn wrote:
We don't choose our basic urges. We can choose our actions regardless of our urges.
To an extent. But let's be honest, here-- the way a person is wired is obviously
always going to provide some restrictions on the "free" range of action. That's the case with virtually any major internal aspect of a person's constitution or personality. I'm a straight male; I don't fraternize with other males because the way I'm wired, it just doesn't really even occur to me. I'm 100% comfortable as a teetotaler; if I so chose, I could go out to one of Vancouver's night clubs right now and order a Manhattan or a Screwdriver or a Tequila Sunrise, but it doesn't really ever occur to me. I gravitate toward the arts and harnessing my natural creativity; if I were trained I could theoretically devote my life to being a doctor or a lawyer instead of an artist, but it doesn't really ever occur to me. And anyway, the reason those things don't occur to me is because I know they'd make me miserable, so my mind automatically classifies them as eventualities that will, with 99.99999% certitude, never come up, and therefore aren't worth devoting the precious memory space.
Extrapolating upon your point, I suppose it's possible for a gay man to marry a woman and live as a heterosexual, if the social pressure is great enough. But I have a difficult time believing that such an existence would be as truly fulfilling as it would if he could not have to constantly be at odds with his natural wiring.
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