What is the main reason why guys have to do the approaching?

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That more or less describes most females. Aspie males are better off alone than having a soul destroying, life wrecking female in their life. Being single is a lot more simpler and easier than being with someone.

Glad someone here understands the scenario better then most members.

If it happens, it happens...but most people put their life on hold JUST to have a relationship they may not want or be happy in.

Have said it before, will say it again...

I do wish people would stop telling me to trust their opinion whilst continually denying my own. I haven't experienced a relationship and the natural progression of people in a relationship and I want to. I don't want other people's opinions on whether that'll be a positive or negative experience, I just want to experience it myself and come to my own conclusion.

why is that so difficult to understand?

Look I will admit that there are women who have a hard time when it comes to dating.
and also there are aspie males that have girlfriends. yes.
So not every women can go out there and find a boyfriend. But here the issues I have with
some of these ladies on the board. The women who complain the most about ''how date is so hard for them,
and just as hard as them as with guys'' are women who have boyfriends.
If a women comes on and is maybe around 30 and has never ever even once had a bf,
That would make sense. I would actual listen and agree with her, that women have just as hard as these aspie men do.
There are women out there who are pretty, succesful and for whatever can't get a date and some them are in their mid 30's.
I watch a documentary on women like that. That what dating trouble is. Imagine being a mid 30 nt women and no man ever pay attetion to you. the women feel there is no good man or she is no good for a man.

The women who have boyfriends or least had a couple. Need to really stop complaining and whinning on how ''hard it is for them''.
Look, dating is not easy even for nt. But come on you ladies here with boyfriends, you really don't come close to dating trouble like these shy aspie men or these single women.

I wonder why this guy can't get a date...?
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Maybe it's his warm, nurturing, and friendly attitude toward women ...

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... maybe not ...

It's not hard to understand. And I think the vast majority here would sympathize with that. I know that I do. It only becomes an issue when people who are in the position you are in use it as an excuse to deny the problems of, and be rude to, everyone who has had a relationship or two.

Agree with mds.
You're free to do that.

It's not like we are all NT's here who have had 10+ relationships by the time we are 30. Even the ones who have had relationships will have probably had 3 at the most. By NT stanards, we still suck at this, threrefore there's no reason for the invalidation.

If you think so little of women, then why do you want to date one?
Not once in there does it mention that you think there are exceptions, so why are you complaining about not getting a date with a woman when you don't want one anyway?

Most females do not have to do anything to attract males. Males must be attractive and also be wealthy in order to attract females. Some males are better off not even bothering at all because we stand no chance.

i hate it when people talk about the positives of being single, i would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all

Coming from the other side, I'm not so sure. I think I was happier back when I was single, rather than after the divorce and pining away for the woman I loved and the children she took from me.

I didn't miss anything back then. Looking forward to something that might happen in the future beats mourning its loss... until the mourning is over, maybe.

i still would rather have loved and lost, as in i would rather be in a bad relationship than not be in any relationship at all just to get the experience and that way i won't take rejection as seriously or personally when i'm approaching girls again, in the pursuit of my next girlfriend in the future, because rejections after that would be as hurting to me, because i will always be able to say to myself "at least i've had a girl, at least i've gotten laid before"

I had to bump this thread again because i had another bad, negative experience with a girl on OkCupid, i got lead on again, she messaged me first, we never got to meet in person or speak on the phone but we did get to exchange numbers, we got to text for a few days, i wanted to talk on the phone with her but she was too busy, as in had class with school, to me, getting rejected is one thing, getting lead on is another

This works sometimes, but not well.

Way to necro at least five different threads

I think it's a forum glitch - it happened to me too.

Old threads are rising up to page 1 on their own...

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