CockneyRebel wrote:
That's the reason that I'm staying out of any type of relationship. I've dealt with one man who didn't understand my autistic behaviour. I don't need to be in a relationship with a male dominater who doesn't understand autistic thoughts and behaviour. Down with male domination!
They do tend to want to engulf and devour, like giant amoebas.
If anything ever happens to mine, that's it for me. I want to live my own life for a little while, not be a "supporting character" in someone else's.
But as to your problem, OP, does he make some kind of effort not to mess the house up? Can he put away his own laundry and pick up after himself? Just little things like that would probably really help you. My DH is a grown man. He's capable of putting away his own clothes and picking up after himself. He just doesn't often do it.
Have you tried putting some suggestions in writing? Maybe think about a division of labor that would have him take responsibility for some little things like putting his own clothes away and tidying up if he's made a mess in the kitchen or left clutter out on the counters.
I have trouble cleaning around other people's clutter. I'm afraid to throw away little bits of paper that look like trash to me, because I've gotten chewed out for throwing away an important phone number that was scribbled on the back of a receipt. If it's so important, write it in a more important-looking place, for crying out loud!
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