so what are shy men suppose to do

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I AM NOT DUMB!

I didn't say that YOU were dumb, I said that what you said was such. Sorry for lashing out at you.

Sometimes a couple beers helps remedy that not enough to be drunk but enough to calm my nerves.

For some Aspies this might be the way to go but personally I have always felt extremely uncomfortable in group situations and this combined with sensory issues wouldn't make it a viable option for me .I would likely just come across as ''weird'' .

what kind of activities do you enjoy that are in sorta public, maybe we can think of other similar ones.

Volunteering might be suitable for some aspies. People who run organizations to help others generally tend to appreciate anyone willing to help and will be the first to look beyond any "weirdness." Helping others is a good way to get out of yourself a little, too. For me, it prompts me to better appreciate my situation. Life doesn't seem so crappy when I help someone worse off than me.

Church can be a good place, too. Depends...

I volunteer for a community emergency response team. I probably give 1-2 hours a month to the group on a regular basis. Every now and then we have training or refresher courses that take a day or so. Our group includes HAM radio operators. Honestly, it doesn't get much weirder but I love these guys. They are fascinating.

I also volunteer for city committees - POLITICS... Right now, I'm a planning commissioner. I really like this involvement because everything has to follow the Brown Act which makes it all straightforward and not so open to interpretation.

I belong to a rockhounder club. Lots of hermit-types - it's the most interesting group I interact with. I've also done a hiking club (got three dates within two months), tall clubs (focused on dating - a little uncomfortable for me), a photography group, master composters and a garden club.

I recently became involved with an event group that hmmm, I'm not sure how to describe them. I don't have the words. Wastelandweekend.com is their website. I do lots of repurposing of discarded junk - it really taps into my creativity. I've met the most fascinating people from all over the world in my dealings with this event and very little of it was uncomfortable. Almost like magic...

I think one would start with their personal interests and research what's out there. I don't focus so much on getting a significant other and stuff has a way of falling into place, or not. Whatever. I just try to enjoy life. With or without a companion, it's mine for such a short time. Why not do everything?

Go to Comicon or your nearest anime scifi or comicbook convention you are bound to find a lot of aspie and aspie friendly girls.Just have to settle with nerds hehe.

This thread always reminds me of this...

Most of the world's response to the question of we shy men - what is it you want us to do?

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Rw5MosKRm4[/youtube]

So true I suppose that alian is a woman too!

I agree with AspieRogue.The majority of Aspie men have tremendous difficulties trying to approach, interact and ask a woman for a date.To imply that they lack courage when they are inherently at a disadvantage when it comes to this sort of thing wasn't an intelligent thing to say.I have read further commentary from unduki and unduki is obviously intelligent but that particular comment wasn't very considerate for an Aspie board.

DIIIiiie

Diiiiie, shy men, diiiie.

No Mr. shy guy I expect you to DIE

Man up and show the b*****s of the world who's boss.

it's not fair at all, guys have to do way more self-improvement than girls do

Wait till the women ask you out if she wants the man enough shell do it and not play games about it although she may feel frustrated having to do it.

Women just have to starve themselves and spend $100 a month on cosmetics.