Can people choose to be gay like they can choose ice cream f

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No

People can choose to act on it or not.

But there's nothing wrong with gay sex inherently. So there's nothing inherently wrong with making that choice.

Obviously the same rules apply as any time you choose to have sex - make sure you get consent, make sure you're not cheating on a partner you promised to be monogamous with, use protection etc. But all that would be the same as if the partner was a different gender to you. It has nothing to do with being gay or it being gay sex.

Sexuality can fluctuate with time and you're still bi if it does that imo.

No.
You like what you like.
A bi-sexual person can be monogamous though. See one thing is a choice but the sexuality thing.
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That’s why child abusers are so dangerous. They can choose not to act but they can’t stop liking the wrong thing. Worrying.

But being gay or bi is lent harming anyone.

Ice cream hadn't been invented when this thread was authored.

Yes, it is a conscious choice, just like it was a conscious choice for me to be asexual and totally avoid sexual relationships, despite what the psychologists and psychiatrists say.

It's actually quite a good analogy. You can choose which ice cream flavour to eat but you can't choose which you like eating; you can choose which gender(s) to have a relationship and/or sex with but you can't choose which, if any, you'd actually enjoy doing it with.

There is a boysenberry joke in here somewhere.

Or something about bi people able to get two different flavours. Or that one meme where a kid ask why the other kid's mother lets him eat two hotdogs.

I think that some bisexual people live in traditional (heterosexual) partnership because they were discarding their second part of sexuality due to general intolerance trends, especially being young. After some years, when married and have children, they may discover that they are not really happy with woman. There are many men like that active on LGBT dating apps, marked as “discrete”, “married” etc., however, searching explicitly for sex with males. Some of them are even describing themselves as passive (ie. taking anal) which is rather more common feature of gays than bi. It may look that being bisexual should be very flexible option for sex partner selection but it does not. I do not know how other bi people act, but in my case there are very specific and narrow ranges of criteria for considering a partner sexually attractive and it is valid for both genders. In other words, only small fraction of woman or man diversity is attractive to me and bring my attention. In case of women it overlaps with their preferences but in case of men it is much more difficult to match each other. Moreover, Asperger traits in contacts with women are not as critical as with men, which are much more selective.

Nope. That's true. Before choosing this title be sure you are gay indeed. Unless you are confident about that, you can't choose it this easily

We don’t choose who we’re attracted to gay or straight the only choice we make is whether to hide in shame all out lives or to live with pride