Too many problems for a mate..

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Hi everyone,
Are there any girls in the world that won't hate me because about 3-4 days a week I get "stuck in my mind" and find it impossible to even say something like hi whats up that day?

I just wish I could find a girl that will take care of me when I'm low and not get mad at me for things I have no control over.

the holidays are depressing
thats it for now....

I'm afraid that I might be too low-functioning to have a lover.

That sounds like just one problem. How's that too many?

What's left of my 'social life' will probably end soon. I'm too odd.

I'm too strange to have a mate.

Why is it going to end? Also, what social life did you have in the past?

I'm getting sick of having people around me. I don't even really like them. They have poor taste in music, art, and movies. And they don't respect my love for Russia.

do they think you're a commie?

Typically people don't want someone they have to 'take care of.'

It's not because most people are dicks... (even though most are)... but it's because most people have enough problems of their own they don't want to have to deal with someone else's problem.

On top of that, think about this: If you met two girls, both were girls you could love and everything else was equal would you rather be with the person who needed 3-day a week care, or the person who was lower maintinance. For the most part human social behavior is economic behavior, why pay more for the same item?

Perhaps....Not that I mind though.

Thanks for replying everyone, I appreciate it. I realize I'm probably no good for anyone and thats ok.

On the bright side, my love for music keeps me company, and I can simply turn off my computer
when I'm bored with it.

I'm not actively looking for more than friendship with members of the opposite sex. I feel like I am quite the reverse of a good catch. I am very emotionally detached and I suck at all the little things you need to do to show love. I wouldn't want a girl to be stuck with me because I'd just make her unhappy. I also don't want a girl so selfless she can put up with me. I'm not worthy of a saint.

catsrnice.

mate, I used to think that I wasn't worth it ere. Up until my first actual relationship. that lasted for about 6-7 months, before it ended on a tragically lowbeat note. however, what I would like to know, before I offer my advice, is how old you are. that will then free me up for my usual psycotheraputic ramblings.

Neoplatonist.

interesting. too bad I don't live where you are, you would be a great study for me, and possibly if I did end up as a Psych Grad student, a continuing study.

No-one's too strange. Obviously very socially obnoxious, inept or low-functioning people will find it tricky to find a partner but for everyone else (which includes you) there is still all to play for. So, in the words of Brian Potter, "stop crappin' and get crackin'"!

What do you mean by "no control over?" Or by stuck in your mind? If you mean to say that some days you just, idunno, shut down in terms of social interaction, some people will understand that. Some may even appreciate the difficulty it causes.

If, however, the only face you present to the world is one that says "I've only got negative attributes," well, its like being a car salesman. Car salesmen don't say "This car has 250,000 miles!" they say the car has been broken in a bit. I'm not saying you should simply sugar-coat whatever issues you consider yourself to have, simply that you shouldn't only consider them. Everyone has positive attributes. Believe me, I don't like saying that, because if that weren't the case I have a couple people, exes and the like, that I could legitimately hate. Instead I'm stuck hating things they did, since I still have to appreciate certain aspects of them.

Everything has good and bad, in whatever terms you want to consider. Your real goal isn't finding someone that will "put up" with you, its finding someone that's a good fit for you, a good "match" as so many people seem to like to say. Sure, perfect matches could exist, but even if they don't, good matches do exist. You just have to be a bit patient and not give up.



This is a point someone tried to make me understand once. She did a "reasonable" job. Your view of yourself isn't the deciding factor for the member of the opposite sex. It is their view of you. Your view of yourself matters to them, of course, and if you keep saying you aren't "worthy," some will get fed up with you simply because you refuse to listen to them, but in deciding whether or not you are worthy of ___________, well, to __________, your opinion has been noted but doesn't override their opinion.

Maybe they'd understand if you mentioned that problem to them?

Just try not to attract the crazy ones like I always seem to do