Unfortunately the options are rather limited at the moment.
The reason it is so underdiagnosed in women, is that all the studies so far have been on men.
More recently, we had the first ever study on teenage girls - of which some very good things came out of it.
But we have yet to do a study on adult women with aspergers.
The way that is going to be most helpful, is by helping put together a study of women with aspergers.
Especially on the coping mechanisms that women use.
Of course that would be a massive undertaking. You would need to get academics, professionals and subjects (aspie women) on board with you first.
One of the biggest reasons they state that they haven't done one is that apparently "there are too few of us".
If you can find enough of them willign to participate in a study, then you can take that excuse straight out of their hands.