All I tried to do was help and I get sh*t on.

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All I've tried to do around here is be friendly and helpful... but a few really, really rotten people seem to absolutely hate it, calling me the nastiest names in the book. You'd think I attacked people and deserved this kind of reaction, but I haven't. It's like some people only respect men who show aggression and power - someone who doesn't gets no respect from them and is s**t on.

I don't deserve your s**t. I haven't done anything wrong. Twisting my words around to try and convince anyone who will listen that I'm some sort of as*hole makes YOU the as*hole, not me.

Fine. f**k it. If you're not going to be respectful to me why the HELL should I be respectful to you? The number of times I've started a message and closed the window instead of posting it would surprise you... all because I wanted to try and remain a decent, respectful human being and keep things civilized even when being insulted for no damn reason whatsoever. Inevitably, another insult comes out of the blue anyway - like they just wait for any opportunity to do it. f**k you.

I treat the women in my life with love, honesty, decency and respect but a few nasty, rotten people purposely label and spread that I'm some sort of woman-hater. f**k you. I'm not.

You wanted to s**t on me until I got pissed off so you can point and laugh? Well go ahead and point then. Laugh. And f**k off.

You'd like to convince people that makes me a bad person? You're wrong. You're the bad person for sh*****g on me in the first place, AND for trying to turn WP in hatred towards me. That's twisted, sick, manipulative s**t that would make any abusive NT proud. f**k you.

99% of the folks here have been awesome, but 1% of rotten, horrible people sh*****g all over me is removing my will to live.

I have had the same things happen to me-I try to be nice and do things for people and support and help when needed and get hurt by others and the people that hurt me criticize and put down others and are exalted like some kind of hero happens at my workplace all the time-I will never understand that at all. I get treated like public enemy number one and continue to get punished by people for saying something that wasn't terrible and in fact was supposed to be good and get hurt back and punished-this has happened all throughout my life. Who did I piss off in this universe to be treated like a pariah-and have also been lied about to others and accused of things that I couldn't even come up with in my wildest dreams.

This is pretty much how I feel in real life... both at work and in social circles. It seems because I dated one decent person that I now have to become hated for how things ended. I dealt with my feelings for that situation, and I guarantee you that I will get s**t on for doing it. I did what was fair and in everyone's best interest. I watched people in the social settings we both engaged in treat me like I don't exist as a result. I am beginning to wonder if the girl I dated had anything to do with it.
Work is different. One person says "he seems messed up" and I get people that were once friendly with me treat me as if I was the evil person there.

I feel the similarly to the way you do on this site.

I don't know about your exact situation, but I do know you're not the only one who takes issue with some of the people on this site.

I don't post much anymore, but I am flamed for my beliefs almost every time I log in. People are posting offensive B.S, and because of the way in which they do it, practically anyone who tries to defend themselves is flamed even more, and runs the risk of getting themselves into trouble.

There are some really devious trolls here too who post seemingly innocent threads which actually contain insinuating, and potentially meltdown-inducing content. The worst part is that most legitimate users don't even realise it.

I've spoken to you a few times and have read over many of your posts, and while I'm unaware of your exact situation, I know that you're definitely not a hater, not of women or anything else. If you think you're being cyber-bullied, contact a moderator about it, and don't give those who flame you the satisfaction.

Yeah I don't understand it either.

Oh well. If it helps, I think that you're a very nice person.

I don't know what else to say because it seems to happen to me a lot too :/ I'm afraid that if I say anything then I will get flamed, so instead I get off WP and release my anger elsewhere.

You feel the same way I do. I almost feel like I have the mark of Cain on this site.

I've had the same crap happen in the real world too. It used to really mess ue up until I realized that I know who I am on the inside.

I made up my mind not to care what people say or don't say. I would like to add words of comfort and encouragement, but if people aren't gong to take them that way, it really isn't my fault. People who are mature enough to overlook my awkwardness and care enough to get to know me will find I make a very good friend.

Wrong Planet's purpose as a friendly and productive Autism community is fading away. How can we help to prevent this?

I think when you get a group of people together, you're always going to have people who you don't see eye-to-eye with.

Seeing that most of us are on the spectrum and have varying degrees of empathy, social skills and ability to "read between the lines", it probably means there will be a few more misunderstandings and arguments. And it's not just curebies, I originally left this site because someone believed because I'm more extroverted that I couldn't have Aspergers. Just because I want to be a socialite doesn't mean I always succeed!

BlueMax . . . for what it's worth I've always found your posts to be reasonable and thought out. And I've never felt that you were disrespectful to women.

I'm sorry to hear about that BlueMax, I've always found you to be one of the nicer and more helpful members on this forum. But unfortunately, on the interwebs many people are willing to be far ruder and meaner than they would be in person, due to the degree of anonymity. I personally don't think it's right that you should have to deal with that kind of behavior on a forum that is largely meant to be a support forum, but you can't change people's actions. If what they said was enough of a personal attack you might want to report them to a moderator.