alleng wrote:
Don't write it without very clearly stating what was done. Especially in the case of a "normal" person, they will deny, re-invent, poo-poo, and generally rework what happened to suit them. So, state clearly what was done. . . .
I like this advice.
I also like my method of 0, 1, 2, or 3. That is, I would study tax when I worked seasonally in tax preparation, or something else boring. In a way, this occupies my mind and I can get more in touch with my emotions in what is usually a more calm way. And I will keep a blank piece of paper next to me. I might write, 'I wish ______ had been more responsible.' Or, 'I wish ______ had both told me he was angry and allowed me to be my own person.' By 0, 1, 2, or 3, I underdo the writing. A maximum of only 3 things.
I write single sentences, or maybe, maybe a short paragraph. And then like building something, almost brick by brick, I build something up.
PS It occurs to me that if you like exercise, this could also work while running around a track. For example, keep a notebook next to the track, and when you run one or several laps, write down a single thing. And if you get two different things rewritten down, count that writing session as a success.