What do you believe makes you attractive to others?

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Been a while since I last made a new thread, so here's one. Seeing as how too many members here for comfort seem to take joy at putting themselves down in front of others, may as well turn things the other way around and have you instead bring yourselves back up.

So, since the context of this section has to do with love and dating, here's a question for you to answer:

What do you believe makes you attractive to others? In other words, list your traits that you believe are attractive.

Well, I'm not sure myself but I've been told a few things:

- My eyes
- The way I talk
- My calm, collected, logical approach
- I'm tall
- I actually listen to you when you talk
- I can recall everything we've ever talked about when I meet you again in person, for some reason women really seem to like this
- I'm honest
- I'm shy
- I'm a gentleman in real life but not the kind you walk all over which gives me appeal apparently
- Raised by women my entire life, know how to treat a lady

Can I pinch some from Tsproggy? These are the relevant ones:

- My calm, collected, logical approach
- I'm honest

Um...what else...that's all I can think of right now.


How bout you MCalavera?

-Hair
-Shyness
-Kindness
-Roundish face?

I really don't know, just guessing.

Looks, intelligence, legs, interesting personality. As far as im concerned.

I'd hope my mind, but when people first see you they have no idea what your personality is.
if I'm to be judged by appearances,just another pretty girl,blue eyes,black hair,etc.........

Apparently I'm curvy, but I think that's just people trying to make me feel better about my weight. ; ^ ; </3

Erm... people also like my hair, I guess?

Somewhat similar to the traits you picked out:

Has the tendency to analyze things logically rather than from an emotional perspective.

Definitely more honest than the NT people around me. Although I can also be good at scripted speech if I have to lie.

Also:

Relatively deep insight.

Doesn't have a poor body image of himself.

Not afraid of conflict ... when he has to face it, that is.

And:

Apparently likes to talk in third person.

People have said they enjoy my fashion sense, my creativity and my frankness, and possibly my confidence, though I've not received as many comments on that one (and some people have even said they consider it a negative). I've also had multiple comments from my lovers that my breasts are "perfect" but I sure hope that's not the only feature people are attracted to in me, haha.

Given that so far I don't seem to have attracted anyone, I rather wonder what makes me unattractive to the opposite sex. Because, frankly, I look at myself and can't really figure out what it may be... some people have told me I'm tall (but they haven't met some of my cousins and friends who are taller than me, I consider myself of average height only, 1.77m-1.78m), I'm in good shape for my age (I'm currently 44 and weigh like 71kg; combine that with my height to calculate the BMI and you'll see I'm in the normal range, just a tiny bit above or below the average value, depending on which value I use for the height), I'm honest, hard-working (though right now I'm between jobs), intelligent, sensitive... I take long walks and use the stairs whenever possible... and yes, my personal hygiene is fine, I don't really get it how some other people need to be told to take more care of that, I shower at least every two days in winter (washing my body with soap and water outside the shower the other days) and up to twice a day in summer, shave and use deodorant every day (plus I sweat very little), keep my hair well-cut... don't tell me it's just because I put on glasses when I need to pay attention to things that are far away (like the movie screen, the signs on buses when I'm at the bus stop, the traffic lights when I need to cross the street...) or because I don't drive a car, I can't really believe they would be so shalllow...

Attracted? nothing
Grabs attention? my eyes

Honest, intelligent, active, non-judging and not in to possessions. being high functioning autistic or aspie is also attractive to me.

I'll add what a younger and older women I met recently liked, I'm bicycle touring the southern US. I asked one to help finding a place and the other if she needed a box while I was at the post office, just before Christmas. they liked me because I could be a paper back romance character.

I dunno, I'd have to be told.

-My musicality ( though I'm usually not brave enough to sing for anyone )
-The way my face and hair looks.
-Kindness
-Honesty

-My humor
-My body shape
-My deep insight
-My balanced mix of nerdiness and outgoingness?
-My "don't give a s**t" attitude - or at least how I portray myself
-My masculinity (yea, heard that a lot)
-My horse-sized cock

My big butt
big boobs
my high sex drive
my long hair
my smell (an oversensitive nose is good for something )
My wit
my sweetness (perfectly contrasting my wit)
my pretty eyes
I am upfront and don't waste time w/ games.