It's always about them

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It's weird, I have more problems than anyone I know, but all they ever want to babble about is themselves and their relationship drama. Yeah I get it, they can't help me, but hello, I've never even gotten a compliment from a guy, obviously I can't help them either... I see all these stuff sent to me, calls at inappropriate hours when I'm trying to sleep the pain away with loud meditation music blasting in my ears to cover up my dad screaming profanities in the kitchen and breaking glasses and furniture (he door locks are broken, the paint peeled off the walls, chairs have no legs etc) and all of a sudden my cellphone vibrates and guess who has a guy friend who has given her flowers and showered her with compliments and now obviously wants a relationship and blah blahblah blah blah blah but if I don't listen, who'll offer me a place to escape? Profanities in one end, kitchen door slamming over and over, and sorry but bff problems sound like something only a mentally disabled person would whine about. Sorry but that's my perspective. People are so spoiled I can hardly imagine. No wonder I have trouble connecting to them.

I can't even have a pet. Can't even imagine what'd happen to it in this madhouse I have no cash to live out from. Too fugly to even make it by selling my body. The world is ****.

No, I'm not awesome. I do cut myself, abuse medication, drink and abuse medication, bang my head against walls etc... But it feels weird to even write this here because noone gives a *** about it. I guess a therapist would but I don't want to complain to ppl who don't give a *** outside the cash. So that leaves me with noone to talk to about anything. I guess I'm just so used to it.

Someone who gives a *** is such a foreign concept and stuff like cuting, fear, depression, abuse are just everyday stuff. Someone who's even nice to me face to face is a strange thing to me.

Think of it this way - people hold you in trust. You're in a position where you can listen and provide useful advice leading to a more positive outcome. Better than being entirely cut out from the rest of the world.

When they don't give a *** about my outcome, why am I wasting time giving a *** about theirs?

I'm not, actually, nor do I care about their trust. If I didn't need a place to stay at night or a clubbing mate I'd spread their dirty secrets all over town for being such whiny crybabies when I have a trillion times rougher life than they could imagine even in their nightmares. Pathetic nasty bimbo *****s.

I wish I could have guy friends to whine to about this like they have. Guys are pieces of *** tho, that's why only whiny bimbos have guy friends.

Or maybe you should switch the cause and effect relationships elements around. A person people are more likely to care about is one who sincerely sympathises with others, so if you work on that, the results you desire (or maybe you don't; I know too well that hoping for the best is difficult when this object of hope is too familiar) won't wait long. If you wish harm upon the people you currently socialise with and are unwilling to change your attitude (or unable to), find other people whom you do care about. Be aware that most people would prefer indifference and a very formal level of politeness to somebody clingy and needy.

Like what, like the insufferable pain?? Like the fact no guys will ever hit on me or talk to me or think I'm human??

Stop pushing your dumbass naivety and inability to understand male-female social dynamics (men are only friends with women they want to ***, duh) onto me.

PS Most people are more clingy and needy than I am because I make it WITHOUT ANY EMOTIONAL SUPPORT UNLIKE ANYONE ELSE I'VE EVER MET IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.

The bimbos with male friends are the ones whinging about anything they can. So yeah, you ppl are beyond naive ::D Of course, you're aspies what did I expect:;D:D:DD

Relationships develop in many ways, not necessarily by people immediately hitting on one another. Myself and many other males are interested in making friends with ladies for interaction, shared fun in pastimes, etc. Whether it develops into a romantic relationship or not is a different question

You appear too cynical and it gets in the way of making any progress; do you even believe any is possible? Looks is something you can change, somewhat, but looks aren't everything.

You say you don't receive any support from your female friends; do you want or express the urge to have any? We're not good at emotional support here on wrongplanet; NTs tend be different but not necessarily so. Do you even trust the people who trust you, does it show? If you make it obvious that you don't care for somebody's support, they won't bother giving any.

I'd definitely recommend making new friends, such as by finding a new hobby, work place or study institution. It does seem like the environment you are in right now arouses nothing but frustration in you. But there are nicer people out there (okay, maybe not in the Baltics ), so don't limit yourself to the ones you can't tolerate.

And assume you do get sex, what then? Will that satisfy you with your attitude?

Who said I'd even consent to sex.

Women get stuff from men wanting to sleep with them, emotional support, gifts, flowers, compliments, whatever help they want. That's what I want. I don't give a *** if I die a virgin. In fact, I'd prefer it.

I've gotten oral a few times, it's nothing I couldn't do without.

Trust me, if I could get out of this country I'd disappear so fast. Stupid, superficial, emotionally cold, selfish people.

No hobby or work I could do with a 9/10 migraine every other day or third if I'm lucky. Is there a job out there where vomiting into the trashcan every five minutes is acceptable? Not to mention sleeping schedule is erratic because of it.

Sounds like some of the same health problems I face. Is it possible to get any treatment at all?

I have treatment but nothing seems to work. Stress is the main trigger for me and obviously every day is emotionally stressful. I've even tried every antidepressant on the market here, those work as badly as painkillers do. I swallow pills like there's no tomorrow but half the time they won't even stay down so...

Try ginseng or other adaptogens like Rhodiola Rosea. They work more or less by regulating adrenal hormones. I was prescribed Ritalin before and Rhodiola worked light years better than it. Pharm. drugs for the most part seem to suck.
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Anyway, I empathize. I have a shitton of problems and when people are like "Hey man, this girl from OKCupid I'm talking to is mad at me cuz I made this dumb joke for no reason at all, what do I do?" It makes me wanna rip my hair out. Seriously, I'm the wrong person to ask, and I cannot help also.

I've tried Rhodiola, took about 12 pills at a time sometimes and it did nothing. It's like homeopathy, you can eat that stuff like candy. All that herbal stuff is a scam in my experience, tried all of it years ago when I was in my little teenage health-obsession phase. Tons and tons of green tea:D

The migraines weren't even that bad then and I was taking it for depression but it did nothing for anything. It's funny how us with chronic pain get this ** recommended to us all the time. Pet peeve, sorry, but all these "cures" are all over the place for us because ppl assume it's in our head and every old placebo would work.
Should doctors in ER give people with broken bones "adaptogens" too, instead of morphine?
Pain is pain, no matter if it comes from expanded blood vessels or something you can see and touch. Migraines have nothing to do with adrenal hormones, they're vascular headaches caused by the contraction or expansion of blood vessels. That's why there are so many triggers, pretty much anything that raises or lowers blood pressure is a potential trigger. People throughout history have described the exact symptoms of migraines, it's not a new mystery thing like chronic fatigue syndrome or whatever.
Just controlling the pain can be a struggle for those of us who get used to medication really fast and seem to grow immune to everything real fast.

Paracetamol, for example, only worked well for me for a month. Then I grew immune even to the maximum daily dose of it, taken all at once.

If you don't want the Ritalin you could send it to me. Kidding, it's illegal to do that I think even if you're giving them away for free, but the doctors here don't even think Ritalin could fix your brain unless you're a little child. Grownup brains = immune to any medicating effect from Ritalin, according to the idiot shrinks here:D

Yuugirl, I don't consider people I talk to online friends or even acquiantances. It doesn't work that way in my country. You either meet up regularly or the other person forgets your name and that you exist, no matter how many times you speak online. Face to face seems to be everything here. And emotional stuff etc aren't discussed online as much.

Obviously I'm one tough ***, but I don't believe in the whole make changes and it'll all work out blah blah blah thing. There are a lot of ppl who hit rock bottom and then they overdose or whatever and die. It's not always what you do, some ppl just have a tougher time of things and some hands you can't win the game with.