some lady got mad at me

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What reason do you have for getting to know some person you meet at the grocery store? On the basis that you think someone's hot? Are you trying to brainstorm alternate reasons when that really is the only reason? I think that's a horrible way to look for a relationship, but if you ever figure out a way to lie to someone's face while looking truthful, you may be able to pull it off, that and have a really nice car.

Words of advice: NEVER comment on a woman's appearance unless.......

A. They ask for your opinion. In which case only respond in complimentary terms (even if it's a lie.) And no, "average" is not a compliment.

B. You are on an actual date (not asking for a phone number or talking to someone you just met) but an actual honest-to-god date. And again, only in complimentary terms. It also shouldn't be the only thing you compliment her on.

You do creepy things and then react with hostility to all the people here who are trying to help you. Here's what you need to realize: In the end, it doesn't matter what you think. I understand these social rules seem stupid to you, but this is the way the world works. If you don't learn to accept that, you'll continue to be a lonely, bitter, emo "nice guy" that woman will never want to be around let alone date.

Advice has been given, a multitude of it. None of it has been taken except the very rare "keep doing what you're doing". As you can see it's not really working out for them.

How myself and others may have treated the OP at times is admittedly unfair. We are here to help each other, but it's hard not to be frustrated or see humor in it.

You can't help those that don't want to be saved. All this person wants is validation for what they are doing, not disapproval or advice. Unfortunately none of us are able to give validation for such ill thought behavior so we are bombarded with threads about the same subject. This is like a 5 year old that steals a candy from the store without paying and desperately wants validation from their mother that what they did was OK so they don't have to bear the brunt of a guilty conscience.

No need for a hero complex. I want Bill to succeed and do well. I want that even for the more angsty ones here. Not for them to go away but to go away better than they came in as far as L&D goes. The problem here is not that he isn't taking my personal advice, he just isn't taking any advice period. Read the part under what you quoted for my take on it. I've seen every thread Bill has made.

Having said all that it's probably best not to continue to make a sideshow. Bill I'm sorry for your loss but why the sudden interest in your ex? You've made lots of threads about other women and approaching other women. Where does the ex come into all of this?

I appreciate you might read all of our advice and probably wish you could unread it, but at least consider it.