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I hate going to church, but my wife sings in the choir, so I am trying to support her in her love for music. Anyway, what is the best way to keep myself occupied so that I am not drawn into what the preacher is saying, praying, or saying creeds. So far I just stand when others stand but I do not pray and I do not say creeds. I figure if I do not think it is important to me I should not feel pressure to do it. However, I do not want to stand out and I do not want to mimic what others are doing. It is such a relief to know I am not the only one that feels out of place. Please any advice?

Bring a handheld computer game set to silent. Wear an MP3 player with headphones. Then just stand up and sit down when everyone else does.

Sorted.

Great advice thanks

I don't see how going to be supportive and then not paying attention is supportive. Am I missing something?

I want to support my wife and her singing. I just don't want to be bothered with any of rest of the service.

Go with the flow. No one who's not into it feels comfortable with it and can't wait to get outta there. Sounds like very liturgical setting. That would drive me nuts. Ironically, I attend a small casual church, because it's the only group of people I feel safe and comfortable around. And I'm talking small, like a little as twenty people at some services. And I'm into it, so that helps too of course. Not looking completely forward to this Sunday though. For Easter it's gonna be packed. And packed with a lot of people I don't know, who only go to church on Easter and Christmas.

I understand, thanks.

That is a predicament. I understand you are supportive of your wife, yet does she understand how you feel about religion or the preacher talking in general? I can't sit through a church service i start freaking out and end up running away from the church for a bit. Also that happened i was in an isolated spot to begin with (wasn't stuck amongst people really). Yet i understand how you feel. Could you stay for just the choir/music part and then leave, or does the choir continue throughout the whole church?

If you explain to your wife, she should understand. Maybe just go for the music? and then leave. I'm not sure how your church does...
I know it can be very uncomfortable heraing preachers talking and all the rest.

Being that you are supportive of your wife, she should be supportive of your needs as well.

Thanks I will talk to her about what you said.

Be careful with that. It will look extremely rude if you're not seen to be joining in the service with everyone else.

Not exactly appropriate behavior given the setting.