It's confirmed: I must get undiagnosed: how?

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I wonder if there is anyone here who has been diagnosed with Asperger's but later found out it was a misdiagnosis--and they actually had something else.

I had a long conversation with an ex who basically convinced me that I meet the criteria for a personality disorder. Actually, it made perfect sense once she explained it to me, and I was only dimly aware of some of the behaviors. I had suspected it before but then dismissed it. Now, I realize I was correct. Even my autistic behaviors in childhood now make sense as a response to a traumatic incident. Forget PDD.

Unfortunately, my psychologist is of the opinion that, once someone has ASD, then personality disorder diagnoses aren't really relevant since every interpersonal problem can be explained in terms of ASD --- lol! My concerns were just dismissed. It's hard to get anyone to believe me who doesn't know me. But those close to me, including two of my exes and, this morning, my mother, all agree with me. I just don't fit the "type" that professionals are looking for, partly due to conscious masking and partly due to unconscious masking due to NLD.

I have decided that I may not even have a co-morbid but that Asperger's itself may well be an incorrect diagnosis. I have NLD, sure; that could explain some outward behaviors like prosody issues, etc. However, one of the reasons I've been obsessed with Asperger's and this site is because of pervasive doubting my autism diagnosis.

Why does it matter? I can't get the help I need with an AS diagnosis. I've tried, which leads me to be told that, if I have it at all, it's very mild. None of the so-called "social skills training" addresses my specific issues. But I definitely have something that isn't mild. Since many of you would probably love to be rid of me, the fake aspie who keys cars and gives bad advice in the Love & Dating section, what should I do to get re-diagnosed, so I can actually address my real issues and quit wasting so much time on this website?

Help for people with Personality Disorders is even rarer than that for people with ASDs

You need to be harming yourself or others in order to get it usually (in the UK) - then you can get into the specialist units they run

All the intensive therapy is invariably just for the people who are a danger to themselves or others and/or criminals, with criminals being the favourite subjects of most therapists and researchers

So keep keying the cars, key a few people as well and you could get all the help you need!

(and no I'm not joking)

Amid all the anti-self diagnose threads, it is interesting to see somewhat of the opposite (personally, I just see those as the human trait of "guilty until proven innocent"). From Wikipedia (bad source, I know), there are 10 personality disorders that sound similar to some ASD symptoms/issues on the surface, but are quite different in detail:

When I read the list of diagnostic criteria for NLD virtually all of the things listed are a subset of ASD diagnostic criteria and I wondered if NLD is simply a name for those with ASD that present those particular traits stronger than others do.

I don't recall reading about the vocal prosody issue with NLD - any reference links to this? I ask as I was going to point out that you yourself have acknowledge "the voice," & that it's (afaik) very uniquely ASD.

Have you read this book yet? If you haven't, I highly recommend that you do. Tony Attwood manages to describe things very, VERY, well. When you read this, you'll just know whether you do these things or not and thus whether you have ASD or not. There's not only a long list of outwardly recognizable traits, but also very accurate descriptions of inner thought processes and mental processes that Aspies use as coping mechanisms. I didn't realize I did these things & why until I read about them and realized while reading this book. Give it a read, it may well help you confirm or deny a diagnosis either way.

edit: If you're a pdf ebook reader, I've found this book online if you'd like a link.

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What kind of help do you want/need exactly?

Have you looked up dialectical behavioral therapy?

Also, you can bring relatives to appointments with you if you feel their input would be valuable. It seems strange that your psych doesn't want to hear it.

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Yeah, maybe you should bring a relative to confirm what you said.