Being direct

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What would be the most direct way you would ask someone, how they felt about you? What they like about you? Because saying it like this, opens up a wide spectrum of possible answers, which is confusing for the recipient.

Forget about being shy or thinking it is too forward. I am looking for the most direct way in how you would ask. No boundaries.

"What do you like about me?"

Now seriously, this a unconfortable question to answer. People can feel it too personal. So the best thing could be to make it feel less personal.

For example: "I'm reading a self-help book, in order to become a better person. There's one exercise that ask me to ask to friends about what they like and don't like, and so to make a list with virtues and things that should be improved. Could you help me?".

And then it's not a personal conversation anymore, it's just homework

Thanks Greb. But my point is, that if someone tells me they like me, how am I meant to know *what* they like about me? "Like" is too vague, isn't it?

But I like your suggestion.

But you want to know what they like about you, or you want to know if that means that they want something more?

No, just simply what they like. Exactly what. I guess it sounds pedantic.

It doesn't sound pedantic

I would suggest... ask about your main virtues and your flaws. People will answer telling you what they like and don't like about you.

Well, I had a room mate once who was pretty direct about it..

"How does my butt look in these new yoga pants?"

I would start by making YOUR feelings known first, making it safe for them to answer truthfully!


"I think you're a great guy I'd like to know you better / spend more time with you. How about you?"

It'll now be safe for them to say they reciprocate... and if they don't, chances are they don't feel that way. Try not to let any disappointment show in front of him if that happens, because not getting an immediate response doesn't guarantee there's nothing there!


Good luck, Hotstuff. Someone's a lucky fellow!

My philosophy has always been that if a question is too direct for them, they probably aren't a good match for me.........Unfortunately that tends to be the case more often than not.

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