Crossing paths with someone bitter at you

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Summer_Twilight
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17 Apr 2013, 8:10 am

Hi:


Have you ever ran into someone who you used to speak with several months after your last encounter with them?

Example: this is someone who seemed to pull a 180 with you by to going from a nice conversation to a nasty one in 30 seconds flat at another time over telling them that you don't agree with one of their views. So things quickly turn awkward and ugly by giving you the silent treatment and talking down to you by saying, "I don't have to listen to you. You need to watch what comes out of your mouth."

Then you see them several months down the road and you do your part to manage a hello while they act like you are dead to them by just removing themselves from you?

How do you react to that and if you do have a chance to say anything at all what do you say?



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17 Apr 2013, 8:28 am

I suppose it is similar to the expression: water under the bridge

it is in the past now and it is over. I don't think there is a way to recover but to focus on something else. All you can do is to be polite about it and move on? What have you tried so far?



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17 Apr 2013, 9:08 am

I tried saying hi to this person yesterday when I was on a mass transit system and they just sat there and ignored me for two seconds and then got up and moved to another seat until they got to another train station where they stormed off my car and walked to another one behind.


I did also manage to do something that I regret yesterday and that was call them the b-word for acting so childish after I saw them sitting in the other car pouting when got off at my stop. I regret doing that too. At the same time, I have a hard time when people whom I know and used to talk with, seem to give me the silent treatment and pout while seeming to act like I am dead to them, it is a hot button. I don't do all the time.

I got flustered because I was trying to move on and let the water be over the dam and they just continued to remind me that I am this monster all over again.



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17 Apr 2013, 11:23 am

people behave in childish and stupid ways a lot of times. And they seem to think that everyone should share their beliefs. You're better off letting it go...



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17 Apr 2013, 11:59 am

I agree with you.

When I first saw this person act like that back in Nov it shocked me to see them go from being sweet to just turning nasty when I told them that I could not agree with what they believed in. They automatically took that the wrong way by accusing me of making racial comments about their culture and I was not.

So now, they are getting mad and moving away from me and then going behind my back and telling everyone that I am a bad person for calling them the "B" word as if I do it all the time and that is not the case. I only said it a few times when they got mean.


For the most part, I have let it go and moved on with my life right? It was when I saw them yesterday acting like that all over again, it was mean.