anyone else ever experience this in high school?

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when i was in high school, and had much less social skills than i do now (i wasn't bad socially overall. i was just inconsistent, aka, really good at sometimes and horribly bad at others).

but i used to sit at the nerd table for a while. and after a while, most of the nerds were pretty rude and mean to me. they were insecure and tried to put me down whenever i tried to do or talk about something that wasn't video games. it was clear they were trapped in their fixed hole and didn't want anyone rising above them.

ironically, the jocks, the group of people who for many people were really mean, actually liked me. we are all acquaintances and thought i was cool. i just avoided them because i didn't have the self esteem to talk to them at the time. i felt i belonged at the table of kids (who were supposedly supposed to be nicer because of their lower social status) who weren't really all that nice.

in sophomore year, around the 2nd half, i actually made friends with the trouble makers and druggies because they were the most popular at the time and i got to sit at the table with them. yeah, i never touched drugs and thought they were stupid. but i felt like i was sheltered and innocent until i heard all the stories they were saying about relationships, sex, life, drugs, etc. yeah, they probably exaggerated, but i no longer was that kid who was oblivious to life.

i never hung out with the cool people though, i just sat with them, and they liked me as an aquaintance. i never pushed it further and wonder what would have happened if i had.

i'm just curious about how you were in high school socially.

I never made it to the cool table. And not to the drug table until after I'd finished university. In high school I sat at the nerd table too - they were nice enough, but everyone was so competitive about the silliest things. In the end I found the library and read for most of my spare time.

I go to a school that has a music program so there are a lot of muso kids, so within the music program kids there are a few muso groups; the cool musos, alternative musos (mainly percussionists) and the nerdy musos. In year 8 I hung out with the cool musos but I didn't get along with them very well at all, so by the end of year 8 I transitioned into the nerdy muso group and have been there ever since.

I dunno, I made friends with what you would consider the "troublemakers and druggies" pretty quick when I started high school even though I didn't do drugs at all.

Or at least I didn't for the first couple years

Maybe my high school was a very unusual social scene in general, despite the fact that it was a typical large urban public school.

I was OK with the "jocks" because I played football and baseball so even though I didn't know anyone when I started high school I knew all of them since day one there. I like to think that they were good with me because I was a solid positive teammate, but maybe it was because I was a random diminutive kid who could nonetheless hit the bejesus out of a baseball.

I was one of those kids who flew under the radar, had a couple of close friends and pretty much everyone else was just OK with me.

Everyone knew me in school and i also for some reason i would hang out with the skaters in high school because
i could get along with them alot easyier than most "nerds that played video games "and but i was accepted into the nerdy group as well.
I do remember just being alone most of the time and being friends with some of teachers and being aloud to stay in the classrooms during lunch break.

It seems i was not in any group at all during school but would fit in well with any crowd and accepted but i never talk to any of them,just hung out.

Since elementary I was pretty much the quiet kid in the corner that got teased and beat up, in middle school I had a burst of popularity due to the pokemon craze, which led to more bullying after the fad died down. In my freshman year though people discovered my talent with origami and I became "popular" again, still teased and tormented by some, but treated generally well and more people appreciated me. I never really fit into any groups, or was bullied by "jocks" or particular groups, I was just sort of there and hung out with my two friends who are still my only friends (aside from their wives and friends).

I didn't have a group or clique as much as random friends from different ones. I hung out with drop outs, the class valedictorian, and a couple "arty" kids. Thinking back, most of them were people who really didn't care about images or maintaining any certain status quo.

I went to three different high school settings.

I never really sat at nerd tables but I did sit with high functioning peers who were in special ed with me. I had tried to make it work but I could not for the life of me admit that we were a good fit for one another. They were also two faced with me and pulled several cruel jokes on me.

I ended up transferring to the second school due to the other students not being a good fit along with disliking my case working. She was a well known "Autism Specialist," too. Yet, she was just very negative and unhappy and so I left. Anyway, I had an easier time making friends at the other school and they were very accepting of my autism.

In the third and final HS, I was a super senior and I made friends with 4 people. I decided at that point that I wanted to learn how to apply myself and go to college and make a different. At that school, I was bullied by a few people because I was always studying or trying to do homework. None the less, they had a great academic system for a low funded school.

I'm in high school right now, but I don't even know if my school has groups like that. I hardly talk to anyone except for my best friend, so I'm usually not aware of things that are going on with others.

I was pretty much a loner who kept to myself. I may of had the odd friend at times though. If I was alone at lunch you could usually find me in the girls washroom eating lunch in a stall or the library.

When you talk about what table you sat at, I assume you meant during lunch? In high school (as in junior high) we were allowed to go where we wanted during recess, so I'd usually spend lunch somewhere where I could eat in peace, whether in some corridor, class room, outside the school area or at a table in the dining room where no one sat (or sat far from me). I hate doing things when someone's watching and I have many eating issues.
To the best of my knowledge I don't think there were much in the way of jock tables, nerd tables etc but I didn't spend much time in the dining room, so I wouldn't know, but a lot of people ate elsewhere.

I don't think there was much in the way of clicks like that. People would usually hang with some of their classmates in school. I kept to myself mostly in high school, and since I took no particular interest in anyone, I wanted to spend my recesses reading.

No one bothered me in any way in high school.