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26 May 2013, 12:26 am

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Could be worse is different from not being bad. Hey Hitler could have been worse. He could have killed as many as Stalin or Mao did. Maybe we should let him pass.


there nothing wrong with telling a woman that your a runner. and won in your age group.
I am right, I was a winner. I did win my age group in the 10k, that all true.

and she never really rejected me, she was married. so, really don't know the outcome. ( unknow if she would had reject me or not, if she was single)

and the second woman, well it worth of shot, some women do date more than one man. even on this board, you have women who have two partner at one time.



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26 May 2013, 12:44 am

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26 May 2013, 1:01 am

Don't let them take you down. You're showing confidence. And that's the most difficult part. Congrats.

That said, you're doing the wrong approaching. You really looked like a jerk, and women like badasses, not jerks. It's even possible that the woman was not married.

But as I said: you have done the hard part, that it's being self-confident. Now you must find a 'flirting' style that fits you and looks fine.


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26 May 2013, 2:39 am

Greb wrote:
Don't let them take you down. You're showing confidence. And that's the most difficult part. Congrats.

That said, you're doing the wrong approaching. You really looked like a jerk, and women like badasses, not jerks. It's even possible that the woman was not married.

But as I said: you have done the hard part, that it's being self-confident. Now you must find a 'flirting' style that fits you and looks fine.


I just talk to women, I have no idea what flirting styles are. I see women, I go up to her, and whatever on my mind, I say it.
(clean stuff, come on people, Im not going to say anything sexual towards a woman)



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26 May 2013, 3:00 am

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Greb wrote:
Don't let them take you down. You're showing confidence. And that's the most difficult part. Congrats.

That said, you're doing the wrong approaching. You really looked like a jerk, and women like badasses, not jerks. It's even possible that the woman was not married.

But as I said: you have done the hard part, that it's being self-confident. Now you must find a 'flirting' style that fits you and looks fine.


I just talk to women, I have no idea what flirting styles are. I see women, I go up to her, and whatever on my mind, I say it.
(clean stuff, come on people, Im not going to say anything sexual towards a woman)


Flirting styles are the kind of 'role' you play when flirting. Think in women: not everyone flirt the same way. Some can play the 'cute' style, or 'strong' one, or the 'intellectual' one, and so. It's not like a 'list'. It's more like some behaviours are more attractive than others. So you must find one that fits two conditions:

(1) It's attractive
(2) You feel confortable in it, and it's not too far from the real you, so the other person don't feel fooled when she knows you better.

A good way to find is: think anytime that a girl has found you attractive. Think how you were behaving that moment. This is a good basis.

Another way: think in any actor you find identified with or you like. Study him.


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26 May 2013, 10:47 am

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Flirting styles are the kind of 'role' you play when flirting. Think in women: not everyone flirt the same way. Some can play the 'cute' style, or 'strong' one, or the 'intellectual' one, and so. It's not like a 'list'. It's more like some behaviours are more attractive than others. So you must find one that fits two conditions:

(1) It's attractive
(2) You feel confortable in it, and it's not too far from the real you, so the other person don't feel fooled when she knows you better.

A good way to find is: think anytime that a girl has found you attractive. Think how you were behaving that moment. This is a good basis.

Another way: think in any actor you find identified with or you like. Study him.


um. the real me is an eccentric, off the top man. that has interesting conversation starter. So, yes we do need a culture change.



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26 May 2013, 11:23 am

billiscool wrote:
Greb wrote:

Flirting styles are the kind of 'role' you play when flirting. Think in women: not everyone flirt the same way. Some can play the 'cute' style, or 'strong' one, or the 'intellectual' one, and so. It's not like a 'list'. It's more like some behaviours are more attractive than others. So you must find one that fits two conditions:

(1) It's attractive
(2) You feel confortable in it, and it's not too far from the real you, so the other person don't feel fooled when she knows you better.

A good way to find is: think anytime that a girl has found you attractive. Think how you were behaving that moment. This is a good basis.

Another way: think in any actor you find identified with or you like. Study him.


um. the real me is an eccentric, off the top man. that has interesting conversation starter. So, yes we do need a culture change.


Well, I don't know if this can help you, but one thing that really helped with flirting was to discover the USP (marketing stuff).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unique_selling_proposition

It basically means: number two doesn't get laid. So you have to find something where you are the number one, something that makes you special, and this is what you have to use to sell yourself. With confidence.

In my case, for example, it's sense of humour. I can make a normal conversation look like a stand up comedy. Once I was aware of it and I started to use it when I had dates, I became much more successful.

Everybody has something special. You have to find yours.


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26 May 2013, 11:57 am

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billiscool wrote:
Greb wrote:

Flirting styles are the kind of 'role' you play when flirting. Think in women: not everyone flirt the same way. Some can play the 'cute' style, or 'strong' one, or the 'intellectual' one, and so. It's not like a 'list'. It's more like some behaviours are more attractive than others. So you must find one that fits two conditions:

(1) It's attractive
(2) You feel confortable in it, and it's not too far from the real you, so the other person don't feel fooled when she knows you better.

A good way to find is: think anytime that a girl has found you attractive. Think how you were behaving that moment. This is a good basis.

Another way: think in any actor you find identified with or you like. Study him.


um. the real me is an eccentric, off the top man. that has interesting conversation starter. So, yes we do need a culture change.


Well, I don't know if this can help you, but one thing that really helped with flirting was to discover the USP (marketing stuff).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unique_selling_proposition

It basically means: number two doesn't get laid. So you have to find something where you are the number one, something that makes you special, and this is what you have to use to sell yourself. With confidence.

In my case, for example, it's sense of humour. I can make a normal conversation look like a stand up comedy. Once I was aware of it and I started to use it when I had dates, I became much more successful.

Everybody has something special. You have to find yours.


ladies do find me funny, so that a start, I guess.



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26 May 2013, 1:53 pm

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billiscool wrote:
Greb wrote:

Flirting styles are the kind of 'role' you play when flirting. Think in women: not everyone flirt the same way. Some can play the 'cute' style, or 'strong' one, or the 'intellectual' one, and so. It's not like a 'list'. It's more like some behaviours are more attractive than others. So you must find one that fits two conditions:

(1) It's attractive
(2) You feel confortable in it, and it's not too far from the real you, so the other person don't feel fooled when she knows you better.

A good way to find is: think anytime that a girl has found you attractive. Think how you were behaving that moment. This is a good basis.

Another way: think in any actor you find identified with or you like. Study him.


um. the real me is an eccentric, off the top man. that has interesting conversation starter. So, yes we do need a culture change.


Well, I don't know if this can help you, but one thing that really helped with flirting was to discover the USP (marketing stuff).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unique_selling_proposition

It basically means: number two doesn't get laid. So you have to find something where you are the number one, something that makes you special, and this is what you have to use to sell yourself. With confidence.

In my case, for example, it's sense of humour. I can make a normal conversation look like a stand up comedy. Once I was aware of it and I started to use it when I had dates, I became much more successful.

Everybody has something special. You have to find yours.


ladies do find me funny, so that a start, I guess.


Yeap. And then you must make this attractive. Women like laugh, so you have to give them something to laugh that is not you (otherwise they would lose respect. And if they don't respect you, you're done, no matter what).


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26 May 2013, 2:09 pm

Well Bill I've held this back for a few months but I think you need to hear it now before this endless cycle gets any worse:

*They aren't all taken or married, you're just making a very bad impression period.
*The "methods" you are using to "pick up women" seldom work for a guy in your position and come across as not only rude but disrespectful of some boundaries.
*Listen to some of your peers on WrongPlanet when they give you advice. Maybe you just like to share your thoughts and aren't looking for any advice which is fine but I strongly suggest you take some of the advice you are given and be bold enough to hear out your critics.



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26 May 2013, 4:00 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
Well Bill I've held this back for a few months but I think you need to hear it now before this endless cycle gets any worse:

*They aren't all taken or married, you're just making a very bad impression period.
*The "methods" you are using to "pick up women" seldom work for a guy in your position and come across as not only rude but disrespectful of some boundaries.
*Listen to some of your peers on WrongPlanet when they give you advice. Maybe you just like to share your thoughts and aren't looking for any advice which is fine but I strongly suggest you take some of the advice you are given and be bold enough to hear out your critics.


yes, actual some of them are married.
non of my methods work, Im just too eccentric ( for good percent of nt women, but not eccentric women)
but there are women they do like me, but they are always married. why do you think. I want men to become more picky.
More picky men, means more women for me. ( or least a better chance)



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26 May 2013, 4:04 pm

Yes, because if the women have no one to date they're bound to pick you :roll:



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26 May 2013, 4:18 pm

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Yes, because if the women have no one to date they're bound to pick you :roll:


maybe not an nt women, but I think an eccentric women might have a very good chance of dating me.



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26 May 2013, 4:25 pm

I am an eccentric man, Ideally it would be best for me to date another eccentric woman. ( I think the chances are greater
than an nt woman) but eccentric woman alot of times are dating other men ( who are better than me)
so, I kinda get screwed.

Im too weird for nt women and the eccentric/weird women are dating other men. so , it's a lose lose for me.



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26 May 2013, 5:05 pm

billiscool wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
Yes, because if the women have no one to date they're bound to pick you :roll:


maybe not an nt women, but I think an eccentric women might have a very good chance of dating me.


Umm, how do I break this to you...

No they wouldnt