Something doesnt fit...

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I recently sunk into a depressive state after moving the 9th time in my life and after loosing some friends for reasons i do not understand, my grandmother dying and my sister moving in, i shut down and ended up staying the hospital for a few days. While i was there, i spoke to a phsyciachrist and a phsychologist. They said that "aspergers diagnoses doesnt fit!" And i asked what doesnt fit. They said "well you want friends! Aspergers kids dont want friends, and you aknowledged you were different, aspergers kids dont acknowledge that. We just dont think you have aspergers" i respected them and didnt argue, i let them know an aspergers diagnoses did fit REALLY well to me so they said "well we will test you, but we think you have a mixture of a nonverbal learning disability, ADHD, OCD and social phobia." I agree about adhd and ocd but nonverbal learning disability doesnt explain EVERYTHING, for example

-i cannot understand verbal lectures in school

- i have a good grasp on how long time has passed

- i have a great visual memory

- im a visual learner

- not much empathy

- compolsivly stacked and piled as a child, loved to build.


Doctors know best anyways...

I have NLD and there are different subtypes of the disorder. Everyone who has been diagnosed with NLD is not the same as someone else with it. I hope you get what I'm saying.

Also, I don't comprehend verbal lectures either. The verbal information is so overwhelming that my brain overloads and I can't remember half of what I was supposed to remember.

It seems that Asperger's Syndrome is one of those conditions best recognized by someone who specializes in that field. Regular doctors and psychologists aren't often aware of the subtleties where it's manifested. I specifically went to a clinical psychologist who specializes in Autism and Asperger's to see if I was on the spectrum or not.

Hello, ZombieBrideXD! Welcome back!

There still seem to be some doctors that don't know much about AS. That makes it really hard for us to get a correct diagnosis. Not being able to make/keep friends is certainly one of the AS difficulties.

Pfff doctors huh? You might as well go to a 'chickenbar' when it comes to doctors and the understanding of autism/asperger these days. I must say, i have a NLD diagnosis too, but i can recognize myself more in an autism diagnosis than the NLD. Everybody's different you know, and i think that autism is too much stereotyped to be honest. Especially when it comes to women (a lot of the autism criterium are based on men with autism, despite that women are totally different!). My advise to you: just listen to your own feeling. You know yourself best. A diagnosis can explain a lot, but you're still a holistic human being, with your own typical way of being, just unique, one of a kind. Hope your depressive feelings are going down the drain and you're seeing another doctor, one who does understand the many faces of autism. Good luck!

I agree. I do like friends - admittedly only sometimes, in small groups, in non-loud situations, when they are not full of s**t, and for no more than a few hours, or I overdose. But I do like them.
And I did always know I am different. I confirmed this with years of detailed analysis of the specific behaviours that I had that seemed to be different from how others behaved.
And I know that doctors are often wrong. I mean, KNOW that.
Give yourself some credit, and trust yourself. If you are capable of understanding what the condition is about, and you believe it fits you, don't tie yourself into knots just because some doctor thinks differently. That's what second opinions are for.
At the end of the day, you are an individual and unlike anyone else, so don't be surprised you don't quite fit into their little boxes.

I have heard it said outright that Aspies (or maybe Spectrumites in general) do often long for connections. Yes, we like to be alone a lot of the time, but that doesn't mean we don't get lonely. No, we don't like having a lot of friends, but that doesn't mean we don't want one or two.

And there's always an occasional exception to the 'non-social' thing, though I hear it's generally in a 'talk too much' manner.