What are some reasons an aspie guy would reject a girl?

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I believe the OP may have found her answer, at this point.

Thanks everyone for the wonderful feedback. It has helped so much. I am thankful that I can understand his actions better now. Before, I use to get frustrated but now I can put logic to everything...well almost everything. Lol

She might disrupt your routine, she might demand attention twenty four seven, she might invade your privacy and worst of all she might sit in your spot and not like anime but watch chick flicks instead! Thats mainly non otaku NTs though!

Because they've just had sex and that's all he wanted from her?

Well, I can say that I have coldsores. It's a form of herpes. It's type C I think. So, if a girl came up to me that liked me, I would probably be in denial that she liked me, because of the coldsores. I don't know if this is the case. I'm just saying.

Because he can? Because males have the right to reject too if they're asked out? Ahh...THIS IS TOO ALIEN, right?

Not just because he has a penis and you have a vagina means that he has no preferences and hence will automatically accept you, I know I know...you are used to guys accept when you happen to do the first move.

when somebody nice made the first move to me, they had me at "hello."

This thread triggered a memory about incident happened last week,

A girl on okc messaged me because she found my body "too sexy" and started to sexually flirting me and all, she was pictureless so I asked to show me a pic of hers after few exchange of messages, after showing me face-only pics she finally showed me a full figure pic and asked me if I find her physically appealing - she was not (yes, she was way overweight, 2.5 times my width at least) so I've politely told her I don't think we're physically compatible. She was like "Well, you're no brad pit, you should had accepted me, you should be glad that a girl gave you an offer!!".

Before you call me shallow remember why she contacted me in the first place.

I find this common entitlement attitude among females toward males annoying and offensive *staring at OP and MrjMajor* (don't ask why the poor MrMajor is included in this, even I don't know why); as if males are supposed to automatically accept romance/date/sex advances from females, as if rejection is a female privilege only and males don't have right to it; well I have news for you, not all males are desperate horny lapdogs with no preferences/standards.

Thank you auntblabby!

I definitely agree that everyone is entitled to who they wanna be with. Please don't think that i have an arrogant attitude about being rejected. I don't want it to seem that i think I'm so wonderful, etc. because I'm definitely not. I just didn't know if his AS was contributing to the situation or if something was wrong with me considering he has implied in the past he had mixed feelings about me.

have you verified that he no longer has mixed feelings?

The Aspie guy I fell for told me (after about 9 months of me pursuing him), that he doesn't function relationships. Not many more details, just that he doesn't function in relationships. There is/was nothing I could do about that except but to continue being his friend and forget any thought of us ever getting together romantically. We are still good friends. Sometimes I still wonder....but I don't dwell.