I can't beleive this, turns out we were both aspies

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After almost 2 years of relationship, I found out I was an aspie, at first, she didn't understand. At school, she was tought a bunch of cliches about AS, or maybe the autism label just distorted all the info in her perception... Anyways, I tend to be an IT or Math puzzle kind of guy with interests in philosophy and history, she's more of an artist with fascinations for nature and animals. Don't be fooled into thinking aspies are all nerds like I thought at first. Here is a funny story. She helped me with my aspie quiz as I was about to go meet a psychiatrist, I came back with an official diagnostic and she was ok with it since it did explain a lot of my odd behavior. I think I scored somewhere around 162. But that night, she begged me to do it for her, and she scored 158 loll. In the end, I guess that's why we get along so well. It's all the stereotypes that got us confused I guess. So she cares nothing for rubik cubes or can't play chess or knows nothing about computer programing. But still, she'll obsess about a farm project for months and then let it go once something new comes along, and she is a wonderfull artist. My stereotype was that an aspie is an intellectual, and we both beleived it. Turns out these stereotypes can be missleading as in some aspects of aspie traits (like aspie research), she scored even higher than me.

I guess aspie is more about having above average motivation in unique interests, someone very passionate and who stands out a lot from the crowd but in a solitary way... I mean, if you're happy living with your interests and rarely seek social company from friends, my bet is chances are you're likely an aspie, it isn't that extreme of a diagnostic... It's only when you see yourself through the eyes of NTs that it all makes no sense. I mean you could be a painter or a computer programmer, doesn't make you an aspie or an nt, but that's not something I quite understood before my girlfriend took the test...

But I'm not surprised now, me with an NT would have never worked.... We'd just have nothing to talk about....

So now I see why we felt "typical" amongst each other...

So weird....

Anyone else had similar "couple diagnostics"?

Nope. Alone forever.

Not at all but I have been wondering recently if it is easier dating another aspie than an NT. I don't date, for many reasons, but I think that another aspie would be the best option as it would be easier to avoid triggers such as excessive touching, etc. Do you think that's true?

To skilpadde, absolutly agree 100% that being aspie doesn't mean understanding other's aspies traits... The way I see it though, we can at least have an understanding of how much a person may have previously suffered enourmously in previous relationships and this can lead to a sort of empathy... In a way, if I know I can be a pain sometimes, I'll have more understanding if she is a pain sometimes. Not that I'll understand why she's a pain, but I can at least know that there is a lot of suppressed hurt in an aspie and when it comes out, it's good to know that it's not really directed at you per say... It's like knowing a meltdown isn't generated AT you, when NTs might not see this as easily (given that they are maybe less prone to meltdowns themselves)... But you are absolutly right, being with an aspie isn't like being with an alien from the same planet as you, I feel it is more like knowing you are both aliens from seperate planets but you connect from being both aliens...

Thank you both for your replies. I love the alien analogy, Johnny, that's what I wanted to ask I just didn't know how to word it.