Should I join Facebook to improve my social life?
My inability to get to know people is still bothering me – a lot.
My brother and my sister insist that I should join Facebook. I really don't like the idea of Facebook; even with strict privacy settings, I'm still worried about what people will be able to read about me there, and I don't think I understand the social dynamics of Facebook.
Do you think that I should sign up anyway? According to my impression, people mostly use Facebook for talking to people that they already know offline. Because most of my friends don't use Facebook, either, that seems a bit pointless to me.
The "mutual friends" feature sounds quite interesting – at least the idea behind it. But I already know many of my friends' friends; the problem is that I don't know them well enough. If I added them on Facebook, I don't see why I should be able to talk to them there if I fail to do it in person.
I really don't care about reading status updates concerning what people had for dinner, and I'm not sure if I'd be able to form closer social contact by commenting on such posts. I have a little bit of hope that a Facebook profile would make me appear more "approachable" and show people that I'm not an emeritus. So maybe there'll be a few more people asking me math questions – better than nothing, but not really satisfactory, either. (I think all of my status updated would be math-related. )
What experiences do you have with Facebook? Is there anyone whose social life improved significantly due to Facebook?
I have a Facebook account, and it does not help much (in my case). I have there many acquitances, but I never talk to them and they don't talk to me (unless about homework).
Facebook is not going to help you if you don't know anyone with a Face account. A lot of users add everyone as a friend, but they don't interact (It's a "I have more contacts than you" contest).
And if you talk by Facebook but not in real life, some people will say you're a fake and other stuff (at least here).
If you join it, take a look to GraphSarch to find people with similar interests, same school, etc. But it is a bit cumbersome and if you add someone directly it would be "aggressive".
In my opinion, it's better to meet people on forums or other sites and then you can add it to Facebook.
I mainly got a Facebook in case employers looked at that stuff.
If you're looking for new friends, Facebook isn't going to help you unless you ask your current friends to connect you with others. You could improve your chances by writing an elaborate profile, so that others can look for common interests, but don't except much to come of it. However, it can help you stay connected with friends you already know, although that depends on how much you and they use it.
Yes, I heard about that, too. But I don't think it's a Facebook problem. It's how people are.
What sites are you talking about, specifically?
My number of friends is so low that keeping track of them isn't likely to become a problem...
What sites are you talking about, specifically?
Forums, like this, or other about other topics. In theory, you can discuss a topic, and that discussion might end in a private-message talk. And then, there is a possibilite of that discussion becomes a friendly talking, and you and the other one will want to meet each other and it will give its Facebook account.
What sites are you talking about, specifically?
Forums, like this, or other about other topics. In theory, you can discuss a topic, and that discussion might end in a private-message talk. And then, there is a possibilite of that discussion becomes a friendly talking, and you and the other one will want to meet each other and it will give its Facebook account.
That's the theory, yeah. But even on this website, I have a very hard time maintaining a personal conversation. Most people stop talking to me after a few PMs. I'd better stop trying before it gets creepy.
I don't see why I should be more successful in other places.
I have no idea how much of a difference it makes, it varies from place to place. I've never been asked to give my Facebook info to anyone, but from what I've read there are employers who check for it, mostly to see if you post anything offensive or make yourself out to be a fool.
There have been countless studies published that have linked the use of facebook to people feeling bad about themselves and depressed...especially among people who are at risk for such problems themselves. It tends to greatly skew your perception about how other people really behave, how interesting their lives are, and how happy they really are. They censor themselves and seem to post only about good or exciting things, which can distort how you see yourself in relation to them and make you feel bad about yourself.
I no longer use it except for promoting my job through a fan page...but that's just me. It's ultimately up to you if you want to use it despite the potential risks.
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This misdiagnosis caused me significant stress, which lessened upon finding out the truth about myself from my current and past long-term psychiatrists - that I am a highly sensitive person but do not have an autism spectrum disorder
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I'm not sure what to think about such statistics... Next time they'll find out that use of WrongPlanet is linked to Asperger's.
Anyway, Facebook is just not designed for meeting new people, and neither is this forum.
Do you know any other websites that I should check? I think Craigslist is often mentioned here; but when I go there, I only find offers for "casual sex", which is not what I'm looking for... plus the website itself is pretty much focused on meeting people in real-life.
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Facebook won't help your social life. I wouldn't even say it would improve it but it would help people realize if your the type of person they want to talk to. My personal advice is go out and be outspoken, that improved my social life more than creating a Facebook account ever did.
The only thing it would allow you to do really outright would be to talk to old friends and family members you don't talk to a lot.
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Can you both please elaborate a bit?
Yes, but I'm much more comfortable online – unlike most people.
I'm a bit confused because, on the one hand, my friends are willing to spend half their weekend with me, but when I talk to them online, they're always "busy".
I'm not sure if I want to do that. I can only think of two "old friends", but I haven't seen them in 5 years; wouldn't it be weird to contact them now again?
I have some old "semi-friends" that I could add, but I'm not sure if watching other people having a social life improves mine. It would probably make me jealous, though, on the other hand, maybe it could teach me a bit how it's done?
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