The Male Restroom Situation? Stalls or Urinals?

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I have notice this trait about myself for many years. In fact, I cannot remember when I did not do this. I have what many consider a shy bladder - meaning it's difficult for me to urinate in urinals regardless of anyone is in the restroom unless I can lock the door of the restroom. The thought is the closeness to another person, the difficulty in breathing and my mind can't release. I am able to do it more frequently if I have enough alcohol, but that is about it.


Many times if the bathroom's stalls are occupied, I hold it for another 15 minutes. I am the only one I know that really has this issue. I wonder if this is common among Apsies or if this is something a little more off the grid.

I never understood the concept of males having communal urinals, it's gross. Who wants to see another person going to the toilet, I don't even approve of people doing that in front of their loved ones. It's like some weird alternative reality to me, it shouldn't be so.

I believe maybe the Romans (and/or others) used to sit on the "crapper" together passing "no. 2's" whilst chatting, it's revolting.

I don't even like it that the cubicles (stalls) often don't have floor to ceiling walls, just partitions with big gaps, so everyone is treated to the sounds of other humans doing their business and whatever foul odours accompany them.

Sounds like you are on a similar wavelength to me on these matters, I don't know if it's an Aspie thing, but an Aspie friend did tell me that Aspies are frequently disgusted by things. There are many things that do disgust me.

Even today, I was in the queue at the post office, and this woman in front of me started holding her nose and sniffing snottily, and I was so grossed out I had to move backwards.

When I was in college, the dorm didn't have any kind of petition between the crappers. It never seemed to bother anyone.

Also, the shower room was one big room with eight showers with no petitions or anything. I really liked those showers. I would turn them all on hot and take a nice steam bath whenever I could.

I remember one senior who pushed his motorcycle up to the third floor of the dorm and overhauled it in the showers.

Wait until you get age related pee slowdown. I now use the time to practice meditation, seriously. Just stand (or sit) and observe the many sensations. The hell with anyone paying any attention.

Re Roman toilets: it's true. I have seen ancient Roman toilets. I think they were unisex. There was even a space for performers to play music, sing, whatever to entertain the constipated captive audience.

Yes, I agree, they're gross, embarrassing to use, and they should all be removed and replaced with proper cubicles. They are also messy and unhygienic.

It's the personal space thing with me. I think the partitions height is a big deal though. I think the overriding factor is when people try to talk to you while your handling personal business - if that happens, regardless of my level intoxication, it's a deal breaker.

I am hygienic, but I tend not to get grossed out too much (although I generally notice everything - or take a mental inventory of "gross things"). The gross things for me is anything to do with seeing the death or results of death of animals. When I was eight, I saw a cat go after a mouse and I was extremely afraid of rodents for many years before I have gotten over it some in the past couple years.

Showers are entirely other thing. I usually held out until I went home if I could. I failed gym one semester because I intentionally did not bring tennis shoes to avoid that. I learned to not face anyone in the shower and bit the bullet later.

Are you guys really incapable of lifting the seat and aiming, can't you lean forward or something!

Maybe this would be a good time for an Aspie invention, you know how hoses have attachments that you can vary how the water exits the hose..?

Ugh, I never use urinals. Never knew why, but I just hate them. Partly the lack of privacy and just the standing up factor. Not to say something gross, but I could never really use the urinal without something getting somewhat wet.

Last year I went to the local music festival. Queued up for a wee, but when I got to the front, I realised that there wasn't a urinal there at all, and people were just urinating against a metal fence (like this one: http://www.evetrakway.co.uk/image/produ ... y/GS71.jpg ). From both sides.

Needless to say, I pretended to do a wee (actually I just played with the buttons on my shorts), and then joined the long queue for the toilets.

I can't stand urinals either, I find it really creepy to be doing by business with someone else standing not 2 feet to my side. I always use the stalls regardless.

I use the stalls if I'm not alone in public restrooms.

I cannot do it in front of other people. No way!! Stalls for sure.