When people are friendly but insanely distant...
Sweetleaf
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Do you realise that the people I'm actually on about in this thread are not those who are distant to everyone except their closest family and friends, but those who are to just a select amount of people like say 1 out of 10 or even 1 out of 20?
That's a whole difference in behavioral terms and mindset and it's not like you can say these people lack social skills or have problems connecting with others themselves, since most of them are pretty active on facebook with like 500 friends and are all in a relationship.
well perhaps you should have specified that in your initial post.
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I believe that you are talking about some snobbish types that are capable of making a show of being friendly to everyone in a way that still suggests that they are too important to be truly associated with you (or with other "unimportant people").
If so, I think they are trying to preserve their perceived high social status by being choosy.
When I first read the title, I thought I had seen somebody describing something that I experienced a lot but never had words for (this happens every once in a while), but it doesn't look like that's actually the case. What I thought you meant was people who spend lots of time together and are nice to each other, but don't understand each other and are not really emotionally close, and in a way where they would be friends if the could, but are just incompatible. I don't think it means anybody is bad, it just means that they don't understand each other. This is how most of my interactions are. I think this is the closest thing to having a friend that I got for most of my life: somebody who cares about me and goes through the motions of being a friend, but does not understand me, and knows it. I appreciate these people, although it makes me sad. Of course there are other people who really aren't interested in being friends and are just nice out of politeness, and that is also okay.
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Yes, yes, this is basically me; afraid of people. I would definitely say that I come off as being friendly-yet-distant.
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Do you realise that the people I'm actually on about in this thread are not those who are distant to everyone except their closest family and friends, but those who are to just a select amount of people like say 1 out of 10 or even 1 out of 20?
That's a whole difference in behavioral terms and mindset and it's not like you can say these people lack social skills or have problems connecting with others themselves, since most of them are pretty active on facebook with like 500 friends and are all in a relationship.
That's how I understood it when I read your OP. Because I'm painfully aware of the phenomenon, I knew exactly what you meant. I didn't post because I don't have much to say about it. It's just another of the zillions ways in which we're rejected, that's all. Of course I can't trust people who have something serious against me, even if just my neurology, so I don't trust them.
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