Do you stalk people on FB?

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Do you stalk your friends and others on Facebook in order to figure them out more?

Alla, to answer your question, I don't stalk anybody at any time without some kind of really compelling reason. If you stalk your friends and get caught, they likely won't be your friends for long. I would discourage you from doing so.

I know loads of people who stalk others through Facebook and other social internet sites. I have an uncle who recently had an upsetting divorce, and ever since he has been looking up his wife and the man she is now seeing (and was seeing before the divorce) on their Facebook profiles, without them knowing. He just can't get over his loss of having a wife, and just wants to know what they're up to. I suppose it's one of those ''I fear to see but cannot avoid because I am able to see'' situations, and I bet if they made their Facebook profiles more private he would then be glad, if you know what I mean. But because he knows he is able to view their profiles, he has an urge to look at it. And he's not the only one who does that either. I know others that do.

Not really. Whatever is posted on Facebook is for everyone to read who can see it. So I don't see how it would be wrong to stalk their page and seeing what they post there and knowing that about them.

Not really. I do like to add random people just out of curiousty. But I do not stalk them.

Alla, League Girl raises a good point, meaning the ethics and practical consequences of what you're doing depend on how "stalking" is defined. I don't go in to Facebook, so I'm not familiar with it; all I know is about the FB stalking problems I've read of. Having said that, I do look at profiles here on WP, and don't feel in the least bit guilty about that. Then, I would hardly define that as stalking either. Again, it depends on how you want to define your terms.

Yes I do fb stalk. Fb Stalking is not like stalking in real life whatsoever, because a person will only be able to view the information that the user has willingly put on their profile for all to see. That is why I have a private profile, but if one chooses to not make their profile private then they should expect others to see what they have written.

Internet stalking is of course very real and almost as bad/scary as real life stalking. I was internet staked for 3 years on and off by a jealous ex boyfriend, although he hacked into my online profiles and installed soft wear on my PC to record every thing I typed anywhere.

So basically fb stalking is just a term it's not stalking it's simply viewing a contacts profile.

I don't FB stalk.

I have been internet stalked. Some people are so sad. And the mods never did anything either.

I used to FB stalk in the way you describe your uncle doing it... Only it was a breakup for me and not a divorce. In some ways, there's comfort in it (in the sense that you know the other person is doing okay). In a very real way, though, it got sad when I spent my own time living in the past... trying to stay connected when we really weren't.

More to the point, though, I do review (to change the language) other people's profiles to see if we have any common interests that we could bond over. I don't think there's anything wrong with this as long as the other person has accepted a friend request and has made info public.

The question is this: who doesn't? Most NT's are admitted FB stalkers, and have no shame about it.

But of course, if you're going to intensely look at someone's Facebook profile, do so in moderation.

No. Facebook is a waste of time.