I want to flee

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I think I'm more motivated to just throw stuff away than to organize it, because in so doing I can express my anger.

MMM always has sound advice.
I think we all feel like fleeing sometimes, it will be better if you can find a way to deal with this.
Just one little step at a time.
I'm sure the dish was installed correctly, it will not damage the building, is easily removed and the holes can be filled. That just sounds like a reason to have a moan to me.
Good luck, more power to you.

What is it fixed to, is it masonry, like brick or concrete, or wood, or something else?

I'm also kinda mad she went into my apartment without first notifying me. The contract says she needs to give 24 hours notice.

Prioritize. There's nothing you can do about the screws now. Worry about that later, when your immediate living environment is no longer overwhelming. Worry about that after you've fixed what you CAN fix. If all else, you likely have a security deposit on your apartment. That will pay for the repairs.

When you think about what is upsetting you, what is the first picture that pops into your mind? The picture of a table in disarray? Or is it a smell? The smell of dishes left for a week? The feeling of tripping over something? Whatever that thing is, that's likely what's bothering you the most about the mess in your home. Whatever that first thing is, that thing is first priority. So, clean the table/rinse out the smelly dishes so they don't smell anymore/pick up what you've been tripping over. Now, you're in "cleaning mode." Say, you just rinsed out smelly dishes. Now, what do you see? A pile of rinsed dishes that could be washed? Do that. Now that those are gone, what do you see? A dirty counter? Wipe it with the dish sponge. Now that that's clean, what do you see? A wall that could be wiped down? Use the dish sponge for that, too. Use the ability to focus on little things to your advantage, to take cleaning in little bites like this, beginning with whatever is causing you the most distress in your environment.

This works for me, because I find that the "big picture" of a situation (like a trashed apartment--I've been there!) can be way too overwhelming. But, one task? Yeah, I can do that. And, when that's done, I can usually segue from that into another, nearby task. It's the difference between going, "Ahh, I have to pick a bushel of berries. There is a massive field of berries in front of me; where on earth do I start?!" and going, "Oh, look in front of me. One berry. I think I'll pick it up. Oooh, look, right behind that berry on the path, another berry! I'll pick that one up, too!" as you slowly follow the trail of berries down the path to where you want to go, you'll eventually have the same bushel of berries. I hope that made sense; I'm not always great at explaining things like this.

Do you plan to stay there?
How long ago was the dish fitted?

Actually, nothing in particular bothers me. I was considering a professional organizer because I felt like I had to clean up, though it turned out to be too expensive. I make sure to take care of food and stuff so it doesn't stink; I do care about that.

It's just in the context of my landlord yelling at me and telling me I have to clean my place. I'm realizing I have no motivation for that, and I feel trapped between my apathy and my landlord.

I've long been wondering if I should just live Spartan-style.

I kinda am already, considering I have no chairs or tables in my apartment; just a box I set my bowl or plate on top of while I sit on the floor.

I'm kinda mad too, because now I won't get TV Japan.

If you're happier living in a more spartan way, then absolutely do what will make you happy. But, if you feel like living a spartan lifestyle is just the only way you know how to cope with your landlord's demands, but would make you miserable, then I think it would be better to find a way to work with what you have. Personally, I can see the appeal of cutting down on possessions. It does make things simpler!

It does sound like your landlord was out of line. If they were upset about the lack of notification, that might have carried over into a "And by the way... " Just make an effort to appease.

Your furniture situation is probably a big part of the problem. Living sparsely only works if it suits your personality. Some people thrive on chaotic surroundings.