What is one thing you wish that NT's knew .....?

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30 Jul 2013, 8:08 pm

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I could wallpaper my room with what I wish NT's knew. But I think if I had to sum it up I wish that NT's knew that they cannot make blanket across the board statements about what people on the Spectrum are like and what we need and don't need or what we like and don't like. This assumption that some of them have that they know so much when, in fact, some of them have not got a clue is annoying. I wish they knew that people on the Spectrum are just as individually unique and diverse as they are. I have heard so many NTs say, "Autistic people like this or don't like that or can't do this or can't do that etc..," Let them come to WP for five minutes and see how wrong they are.

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sorry we dont have a like button,but am totaly agreeing with what have written.
people on the spectrum can be also just as bad as making assumptions about each other,until they have experience with us all they have to go on are stupid films,the medias portrayal and parents of young autistic children who think we stay exactly the same through our lives.


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30 Jul 2013, 11:14 pm

I wish they knew what I really meant to say. I wish I could just talk to them all in text rather than verbally. Verbal kills me every time. But in writing? Writing I can handle.


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31 Jul 2013, 8:18 am

Fnord wrote:
When you've seen one Autistic person ... you've seen one Autistic person!
Cheers! That should be on a bumper sticker!



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31 Jul 2013, 8:27 am

I wish they new that I don't mean anything personal by not wanting to be with them all the time.


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31 Jul 2013, 8:33 am

skibum wrote:
Fnord wrote:
When you've seen one Autistic person ... you've seen one Autistic person!
Cheers! That should be on a bumper sticker!

Heard that one before, its one of my favourite sayings :)

I just wish that people would realise that knowing a friend with an autistic child is not the same as living with autism - either as a parent or as someone with autism yourself.


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31 Jul 2013, 12:00 pm

grahamguitarman wrote:
skibum wrote:
Fnord wrote:
When you've seen one Autistic person ... you've seen one Autistic person!
Cheers! That should be on a bumper sticker!

Heard that one before, its one of my favourite sayings :)

I just wish that people would realise that knowing a friend with an autistic child is not the same as living with autism - either as a parent or as someone with autism yourself.
That is a really good one.



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31 Jul 2013, 12:48 pm

How it feels to be excluded, wrongly accused, and treated as less than human.


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31 Jul 2013, 10:38 pm

Thanks guys! These are great! I love to hear multiple views from different people. It helps to see the broad picture of things.
Here's what I want you to know about NT's such as myself. Some of us really do want to understand those with some kind of disability.... This is especially true the older we get. Like you guys we often don't know what to do or say in certain situations. We have struggles and feel like we don't fit in or belong anywhere. We have are quirks too, and our way of doing things. We often wonder if we are normal all the time. We struggle with anxiety. We are insecure about ourselves. We have our intolerances. We have our obsessions just like you. We laugh inappropriately at times. We daydream. We inmate those around us. We are not that different from you, and we don't think you are any less human. I know this because the more I talk to everyone the more I know about people innermost thoughts.



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01 Aug 2013, 5:08 am

I wish this topic was required reading for everyone on planet Earth. :)



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01 Aug 2013, 7:53 am

I'm going to answer the thread topic question first.

What is one thing you wish that NT's knew .....?
How to sit quietly together at a table without talking complete nonsence just to pass the time.

Now that I've got that off my chest.


What is something you wish for everyone to know about ASD?

I'm an honest person. I'm not tricking you, I'm not foolin' with ya, I'm not liing to you.
I say things as I understand them to be, my understanding is limited to what you "tell" me.
I answer the question asked, not the qeustion you didn't ask because you were being polite.
I'm happy to sit in your company without talking. I'm not upset with you.
If you bully me, be rude to me, lie to me, betray me; it will not be forgiven or forgotten.



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01 Aug 2013, 9:30 am

Know that I'm a good person, and not inconsiderate, rude, or condescending. I'm just not very good at decoding people. And just because I don't smile at people as much as I should doesn't mean I'm an angry/grouchy person. It's just the way I am. Stop trying to change me and start trying to respect me for my good points. And there are many (like being able to learn that anatomy diagram 5x faster than the next best person in the class).



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01 Aug 2013, 10:04 am

aspieMD wrote:
Know that I'm a good person, and not inconsiderate, rude, or condescending. I'm just not very good at decoding people.


I wish my husband could understand this....he always thinks I'm being rude. I'm just blunt and not very good at interpreting or modulating my tone of voice ("It's how you said it...") :roll:



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01 Aug 2013, 12:24 pm

KingdomOfRats wrote:
people on the spectrum can be also just as bad as making assumptions about each other,until they have experience with us all they have to go on are stupid films,the medias portrayal and parents of young autistic children who think we stay exactly the same through our lives.


:thumleft: I like this, but would like to add that NDs make assumption about NTs too.



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01 Aug 2013, 4:35 pm

Me wanting alone time does not mean that I'm trying to ignore you. It means that I am tired of dealing with you and need to recharge by doing stuff alone where I don't have to talk to you 24/7.

You do not need to check on me every ten minutes.

"Why can you talk to people online with such ease but have difficulty with me?" Because talking to a person face to face requires me to have to think about what I'm saying on the spot while being online allows me to take my time figuring things out.

Stop trying to shove me into being "mature" it's not gonna work. I've tried it and that tires me out.

Quit making assumptions about people you know nothing about.

Stop thinking that every choice I make is because I'm influenced by someone else.

I have a whole list of these.



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01 Aug 2013, 4:42 pm

Sometimes I think and process like a child but I still have a very sharp and powerful mind and in ways I am much more mature than others.