What was your high school life like?

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no friends and no desire for any

no bullying

struggling and failing maths and sciences
hopeless in PE
bored sick with every subject, whether easy or hard, not interested in any of it at all
fed up with wasting all that precious time in school, and never having time to be me and do my stuf
burned out
quit

x3

High school is when I went back to public school after spending my middle school years in a special education school. For the first year I was in an all-day special ed class, but by the end I had partially integrated into a few semi-regular classes/periods, though they were still specialized education.

Middle school was where I finally started coming out of my shell socially, so it was a bit easier for me to talk to people in high school. I was a loner in 9th grade, mostly because my class was separated from the rest of the school, but by 10th grade I had begun making friends in my classes and ended up hanging with the "weird kids" during lunch. I also developed a great relationship with my school psychologist which lasted until graduation...I actually met my best friend in her office.

For the most part, I was isolated from the "normal" kids, so I mostly lived in my own world during high school, but I always got stares and remarks whenever I'd encounter them. I was quite familiar with the "R" word during those years. It was never confrontational or physical, but it still wasn't ideal.

So, generally, I'd say that my high school life was pretty alright.

I was at an English public school from 13 to 18. I was subjected to a lot of verbal bullying . I had no friends. The catalyst for the bullying? Being honest and open about my lack of knowledge and experience about sex while the other boys were boasting about what they knew. That straight off marked me as a 'weirdo' .

In a word, interesting... The aide I had from 6th to 10th grade had two daughters on the school's sports teams. That combined with previous exposure to friendly pro athletes and going to sporting events courtesy of my family meant I was spared getting picked on by jocks. The only kids who picked on me were probably jealous of me. Otherwise I got along with pretty much all the cliques

Was constantly asked "why don't you ever talk?"
All I did was read books, go on the internet, play video games, and watch/critique anime, and music.
I cycled through boyfriends that I didn't really care about.
Was super depressed, wanted to die all the time. Bullied. Abused.

Yeah it basically really f*****g sucked.

While I was not bullied to the extent I was in Junior High or the first two years of college I was totally out of place and out of step with what was going on at that time which was 1971-1975. I was not into what would later be called stoner culture which predominated in those years. Because I was one of the few people who did not do any drugs and did not dress or act like most in part due to my undiagnosed autism. People thought I was a narc(undercover police posing as a student) so they avoided me. I had my own corner at the lunch table on most days.

I just did not like the place so I did not apply myself and got a lot of C's for grades.

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either i was successful at hiding in plain sight, or people just willed themselves to not notice me.

I can feel for you besides a couple of friends I was considered uncool and at the time I was desperate to have more friends and fit in.

I even given up my virginity in a naive and stupid hope that it would make me more accepted but I was wrong.

I reckon I was a little crazy. Off the chain active and talkative, in trouble constantly. I didn't get bullied much, mostly because they'd have to catch me. In a word, I was wild. Not in the sense of doing drugs, skipping school, etc... Wild, as in feral. Maybe like "Nell" in the movie, only I could talk. The only diagnosis I had at the time was ADHD. I never did my work, but could always squeak by with a "C," when push came to shove and did well on the standardized tests.

God, what a nightmare. I'm lucky to have survived.

I didn't care about having friends but it was pretty difficult to know I was a target sometimes. I had some acquaintances but I wasn't really close with anyone and I didn't know how to be so I was very lonely at times.

I started having sex pretty young. I lost my virginity to someone I didn't care about and he didn't really care about me either and it wasn't a great experience. I regretted it for awhile afterwards.

Same here Denny. I did not return a call inviting me to my 50th year reunion, and have never attended any of the class reunions. High school is something I prefer to forget. I feel bad about holding grudges, but I sometimes think that it is not a grudge, but I fear seeing those people again. High school was painful, and I fear that a reunion would just put me back there and cause me to remember things that I have blissfully forgotten.

Mostly Hell, except for the library.

The first two years were worse than the last two years because of mandatory PhysEd class.

The final semester was the best, except for Prom Night (I couldn't get a date), because people finally started leaving me alone.

I found it got easier each year because I had more control over the classes I took, I got to chose electives. I just took the easiest courses I could cuz I had NO desire whatsoever to go to college partly due to my learning disabilities. I took PE my last 3 years. I only needed to take it two but it was one of the two easiest classes I took. Half the time we walked/ran the track or lifted weights which I didn't mind. I had no muscle at all & was still the 1st person to finish walking the track cuz everyone else was walking slow so they could talk/have conversations. I don't really mind walking in general, I kinda zone out & daydream. I lifted the least amount of weight but I just did what I could. I mostly just stood around when we did other stuff instead of really participating & I got away with it cuz I have a bad low vision disorder. PE was one of only a couple classes I ever got As on my report card in. There was never homework & the only tests we ever took were final exams at the end of both semesters. We still got As on our report card even if we failed the exam as long as we hadn't gotten many points taken off during the rest of the year. The main thing people got points taken off for was for not dressing in the skewl's gym cloths. I always dressed in the gym cloths when we were supposed to. The only class I had that was easier than PE was the resource class I took but that did not count as an actual class. We didn't get a credit for it. There were 7 periods each year & we needed 25 credits to graduate unless you took resource all 4 years then you could graduate with 24 which I did.

I never went to a single dance or went to any sports games. When I wasn't at skewl I mostly wanted to wind down from being there & I had never been into that kinda stuff anyways(it's the opposite of my personality) so I never had any desire to go to anything.

40 years' worth of high school reunions i have ignored. the only ones who show up for those were the same full-of-themselves alphas, boring.

I had a few friends but all of them now have kids and are married or single mums and I struggle to find common ground with them.

Yer losing my virginity when and to who I did was a major major regret it messed my confidence up for a long time made me question my sexuality as for years I assumed all men were sex crazed pigs.

My partner is an exception and in a way I consider him my best friend as well as my soulmate just wish I treat him better but I'm learning.

I was glad to be out of school college was a bit better and then university was a lot better though I still had no friends besides the lad who became my partner.

How do you know who's there if you don't show up?

If TV and movies are to be believed, the full-of-themselves alphas all turn into fat and depressed divorcees, and the high school losers all grow up to be successful business men with beautiful women at their sides.