I'm so sick of this whole aspie women have it easier crap
Alpha Male
Kind to people, extremely confident, good social skills, often successful. The tall "handsome" ones of these get any woman they want, but even short fat ones have a lot of women after them. A pretty good catch.
Fake Alpha Male "Douche bag"
A dick to people, feigns confidence to cover up insecurities, often the facade is enough to get him lots of women. They don't usually hang around though unless they have problems like low self esteem or insecurity themselves. A terrible catch.
Beta Male
Don't portray the self confidence of the Alpha male, but are generally good people and nice/respectful to others. Can still get women due to a decent personality. A pretty good catch. OFten these guys are single because they are shy or don't go out a lot.
Omega Male - "Nice guy"
Bad qualities of a fake alpha male, and the bad qualities of a beta male. Often fakes being "nice" and wanting "just friends" as a cheap way to get relationships or sex. Usually watches a lot of porn and jerks off a lot, and expects real women to be like porn stars/super models. Doesn't have much respect for women. No-one wants to date this person. Usually calls women "b*****s" for not wanting to date him.
I'm probably in the beta male catogory.
I treat woman, a lot better than a lott of people, and the reason why I don't have a relationship, is I'm too shy to approach any good looking girl.
I have more or less given up on AS-AS relationships, because I am afraid I will end up with someone who is asexual and does nothing but sit at home and play video games.
I am, in no way, saying they're all like this. Far from it. But no guarantee that I wouldn't end up with someone like that.
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I am, in no way, saying they're all like this. Far from it. But no guarantee that I wouldn't end up with someone like that.
I can't believe people are still posting in here.
And You made a pretty big generalisation there, Tim. I don't know why you assume video games and asexuality are normal aspie female traits.
I am, in no way, saying they're all like this. Far from it. But no guarantee that I wouldn't end up with someone like that.
I can't believe people are still posting in here.
And You made a pretty big generalisation there, Tim. I don't know why you assume video games and asexuality are normal aspie female traits.
I am worried that all the hypersexual ones are already spoken for, as are the ones who like to travel, and that the asexual ones are the only ones left.
If the Simpsons/South Park criteria were eliminated, I would be looking for someone who likes to travel, but is otherwise just looking to get laid.
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Because that's the life story for some of us.
I'm not saying we have it harder. I'm sure Men get a very raw deal. But You should not assume that looks or gender have much to do with difficulty and finding someone who loves and cares for you for who you are.
Excuse the story here.
Tell me about it.
not asexual, but I haven't dated in a long time (4 years), but I'm always having to help people (Aspies) get out of situations, involve dating.
What I've noticed, and I'm not making this up, is that these aspies girls meet these guys, (Both Aspies, and non aspies), and the guys claim to care about them. and want to be with them, they claim they love them, and "They are the world to them", they end up having sleeping together, and having sex, then a few months later down the line, I get told, by the girls themselves, almost on the verge of tears, "Oh so and so dumped me", or in rare cases, and I mean extreme cases, "So, and so cheated on me, so I dumped him". Most of the time, I tell them, "It was your own fault, I warned you", but it's happened so many times.
Most of my friends have Aspies, and most of them date, but none of them, have been in a relationship longer than 6 months, most of them breaking it off, due to cheating reasons.
Sickens me......
This was me years ago, minus the sleeping and having sex part.
I just got so invested in this online guy after he told me he liked me, to the point where I got terribly clingy.
So the setup of him actually having a girlfriend in the end was my own damn fault... I never got a warning and I really wish I did.
This was me years ago, minus the sleeping and having sex part.
I just got so invested in this online guy after he told me he liked me, to the point where I got terribly clingy.
So the setup of him actually having a girlfriend in the end was my own damn fault... I never got a warning and I really wish I did.
Yes, that sounds right, had a few just, in your situation, also minus the sex part, so yes, I know what you're saying.
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I read a handful of posts in this thread which mostly compare the woes of being an aspie man versus aspie woman.
I saw the original post differently - sorry if I'm unnecessarily keeping the thread going or repeating someone else's point but this is an interesting topic. Acknowledging that there might be stereotypes for whatever logical or illogical explanation...
Aspie women may have an easier time getting dates (compared to their male counterpart), only to make emotional attachments to another human being who walks away for no understandable reason or abuses them. Doing nothing, of course, for one’s self esteem.
Yet, aspie men may struggle to even get dates feeling isolated, neglected and lost at how to improve or change their circumstance - again doing nothing for self esteem.
Although, dealing with constant intimate rejection is agreeably different to being completely ignored, each is still painful and traumatic.
I saw this post as: instead of judging how things appear from the outside (ie, supposedly its easier for a girl to get a date over a guy), sometimes we need to appreciate what is going on in the inside (ie, were are all hurting, it’s just less visible in some as opposed to others).
I think it is safe to say we all struggle with relationships of all kinds in all stages.
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Peoplewhowere single (andhadneverbeen married)were more likely tobe assessedwith
ASD thanpeople of all other marital statuses combined(i.e.thosewhowere either currently
marriedor cohabiting orwho hadbeen marriedin thepast). Thispatternwas evident among men only: 4.5% of single men were assessed with ASD compared with 0.9% of
those married or cohabiting and 1.0%of those widowed,divorced or separated
http://a4.org.au/a4/sites/au.a4/files/A ... OCT_09.pdf
You say you're "sick of this women have it easier crap", but you might consider it's possible that other people are sick of the fact that they just can't table their issues here without being told it's a load of crap, getting verbally confronted (to put it nicely) and being told "that's just not true, because it means women have it easier if you say that". I think a lot of the fellas here are just being realistic, and when you think about it how better to come to terms with the fact that as a man you do have to be much more assertive, have more social skills and make all the moves on women by discussing it? If the roles changed tomorrow and it was women who had to do all this I doubt any of the fellas here would have a problem with being single, perhaps they'd have problems keeping a partner, but there is a huge qualitive difference between not being able to get a partner at all and just having a problem keeping them around (which seems to be the biggest complaint from the female camp). With all the eye rolling, cries of "that's just not true" and individuals who will just doing anything to stop it being discussed, who has the attitude?
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