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Do you experience loneliness or do you prefer solitude?
I experience loneliness. 29%  29%  [ 29 ]
I prefer solitude. 21%  21%  [ 21 ]
Neither. 4%  4%  [ 4 ]
Both. 47%  47%  [ 47 ]
Total votes : 101

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26 Oct 2013, 10:24 pm

Many sources say that autistic people feel more loneliness than the average person because of their difficulty with social situations, but is that really true? It seems like that is based off the assumption that all humans are social creatures. However, autistic people, I would think, would be less socially oriented than NTs. How many of you experience loneliness, and how many of you prefer solitude, and why?

I prefer solitude because being around people a lot gives me sensory and cognitive overload (mainly because processing social information is hard). Also, it is easier to come up with ideas when I'm alone.



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26 Oct 2013, 10:30 pm

There should be an option for "Both" or "It Depends".

Sometimes, I want nothing to do with the human race.

Other times, I crave companionship so much that it hurts.

I'm fortunate that my wife seems to understand my "moodiness"



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26 Oct 2013, 10:31 pm

You need an option for both.



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26 Oct 2013, 10:49 pm

I would go with "Both" as well. It's quite a dilemma. Sustained periods without fulfilling interaction lead to me feeling lonely and then on the occasional outing with friends and acquaintances I realize I'd feel more comfortable alone.



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27 Oct 2013, 4:31 am

Solitude for me. :thumright: I don't understand the feeling of loneliness.



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27 Oct 2013, 7:29 am

I've added an option for "Both".


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27 Oct 2013, 8:56 am

no not at all...



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27 Oct 2013, 9:50 am

JitakuKeibiinB wrote:
Solitude for me. :thumright: I don't understand the feeling of loneliness.


Same. It's a bit annoying when people expect me to feel lonely when I'm not with friends. But I have no clue why people feel lonely when they are not with friends, or even how loneliness feels like, because I have never experienced loneliness.



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27 Oct 2013, 11:43 am

I feel a lot of the time. I moved back home for about two years because I couldn't stand the loneliness anymore. I am out of the house now, and I am doing pretty well. I still feel lonely, but it's not persistant like it used to be. It gets a bit better every year, in my experience.

I also prefer solitude, though. Just yesterday, I came off the end of a hard week, and I didn't speak to another human all day.



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27 Oct 2013, 5:43 pm

Definitely "both", at the same time.

I'm social enough to develop a need for companionship, but I'm not social enough to fulfill it. Meeting people is usually boring and overwhelming (simultaneously), but being alone all the time is worse.

Social interaction is like medicine for me: I don't do it because I particularly enjoy it, but because it makes me feel better.



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27 Oct 2013, 6:16 pm

There are times when I relish in my solitude and at times feel empty or alone. Tonight I'm feeling the latter. Most likely due to the stormy weather outside.



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27 Oct 2013, 8:16 pm

I don't get lonely.
I prefer my own company.
I find being around other people very taxing and I need to spend time by myself to recharge.


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29 Oct 2013, 7:55 pm

Desperately alone, rather than lonely, at times. Married, with children, despite all the odds. Tonight my husband told me he 'loves the packaging, but what's inside is really hard to deal with a lot of the time'. I don't think I've ever felt more alone than tonight.



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30 Oct 2013, 1:23 pm

I like spending time alone, but that doesn't mean I don't get lonely without anyone or any meaningful people in my life.



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01 Nov 2013, 10:19 am

I get enough solitude. I crave human contact but have no idea how to go about making friends or meeting men. And my complete lack of interest in pop culture or the latest gadget doesn't help. Who the hell are the Kardashians and why are you keeping up with them anyway?



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01 Nov 2013, 10:35 am

When I'm in a social situation, I want out.

When I'm outside a social situation, I want in.