Do extremely social extroverted people make you sick?

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04 Nov 2013, 3:15 pm

As a kid, I hated them and found them very confusing. Now, they are people that I tend to really like/admire.



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05 Nov 2013, 5:12 am

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I work around one of these, people, seems very annoying to me. Very extroverted, very social cracks jokes etc.....

have never felt sick because of any human,have hated some to the point of feeling sick because of evil things they had done but never because they were different to self.
its as badd as complaining about people hating us because we are different we cant have it both ways.


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05 Nov 2013, 7:27 am

I agree with KingdomOfRats. If this thread were called "Do extremely introverted people make you sick?", people would be up in arms, and rightfully so.
Months ago, I saw a broadcast on Amsterdam local television by the Amsterdam chapter of the Scientology Church. It promoted and extraverted lifestyle and was fairly explicit in denouncing introversion as something that's always bad. Needless to say, it quite offended me (though I'm not anti-Scientology per se), and I don't want to have a similar attitude toward people simply because of what they are like.

EDIT: I also think some posts in this thread are confusing extraversion with something else. A lot of the descriptions of people strike me more as people who use socialisation as a tool to get 'in' with the 'in-crowd', and to manipulate the situation to suit their needs. To that end they keep talking and blabbing and gossiping.
When I think of extraverted people in the positive sense, I think of people who open themselves up to other people and reach out, and who put effort into trying to understand the other person. A lot of the people described in this thread seem to be mainly thinking of themselves in their interactions with others; how to use their social networks to further themselves. I'm not certain that that is true/sincere extraversion.


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05 Nov 2013, 1:49 pm

Nope, more like exhausted.



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05 Nov 2013, 10:48 pm

Yes. Literally. I have gotten migraines ad nauseum to the point that I thought I was going to have an aneurism. I have even been driven to meltdowns. I can't settle around people who are constantly going for it and it makes me literally sick. I guess like PNNormal ^ said, exhausted is where it starts for me and then it just gets worse from there.


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06 Nov 2013, 12:39 am

steppinthrax wrote:
I work around one of these, people, seems very annoying to me. Very extroverted, very social cracks jokes etc.....

Extreme extroverts don't make me sick, but they might make me freak out. If I'm stuck with someone who talks too much for too long, I start to feel tired, anxious, and panicky. I usually need to go hide afterwards.



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06 Nov 2013, 9:23 am

I don't need to hide afterwards, I'll just stick my head in a book, computer or video game and let that mellow me out.



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06 Nov 2013, 10:43 am

nope not at all...

socializing is actually good for you, never mind what the haters think.



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06 Nov 2013, 11:25 am

I think there may be some confusion too. I don't hate people like that as far as hate is concerned like thinking they are evil or something but their constant huge amounts of energy literally makes me sick. I can't be around it for very long because I can't keep up with the energy and I get drained and exhausted and I get huge piercing migraines and nausea and have meltdowns. I actually think they hate me because I am introverted. I know that some of them do because they have told me and acted like it in front of me. It's not a matter of hating the person but not being able to sustain around the constant energy. I don't think that is offensive at all. It's just a fact. People tend to hate me because I can't keep up with them. And I always get reprimanded and yelled at or made fun of in a mean way because I can't keep up. In fact, I got yelled at for two days straight because I could not keep up socially with a friend that was with us for a few days. I have always been told that I have to get "out of myself" and "have a good time". Well my good time is sitting around staring at something. So sorry, but yes, people with huge amounts of energy do make me sick. I don't choose to get sick, it just happens. Sometimes it takes me over a week to recover. And I am the one who is hated because of it. How offensive or unfair is that? No one seems to think it's offensive or unfair when I suffer because I have to keep up with them.


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06 Nov 2013, 1:20 pm

They don't make me sick. But I think they are annoying and intimidating.



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06 Nov 2013, 6:17 pm

Codyrules37 wrote:
nope not at all...

socializing is actually good for you, never mind what the haters think.


Oh I'm sorry, I hadn't realised that doing something that exhausts me to the point of being too tired to read was good for me. I'll do it more, Doctor.


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06 Nov 2013, 8:11 pm

Not literally, thank goodness. :) But just watching and /or listening to them wears me out. I don't know if my sister-in-law is what you would call extroverted, but she is quite high-strung, seldom sits down, and is constantly hovering over my brother and her two daughters when they are over. I've actually told my mother I get tired just watching her and that my sister-in-law makes me look pretty mellow. Mom thinks it's funny. :?



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06 Nov 2013, 8:16 pm

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Codyrules37 wrote:
nope not at all...

socializing is actually good for you, never mind what the haters think.


Oh I'm sorry, I hadn't realised that doing something that exhausts me to the point of being too tired to read was good for me. I'll do it more, Doctor.
Yeah, being totally stressed and strung out to the point of meltdown and aneurism concerning migraine is the best thing I need. Yeah okay. I think I'll just hang out with you Who Am I. We can sit together and just stare at trees and lakes and listen to birds chirping while Cody socializes. Oh no wait, maybe we should socialize and nearly kill ourselves like I did driving home the other day since I was so stressed and exhausted from the socializing I could barely keep my car from going off the road. But since it's so good for us, I don't know, maybe we should just learn to get better at it.

Give me a break man, isn't that part of the definition of Autism? I'll just hang out in a quiet spot with you Who Am I.


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06 Nov 2013, 8:39 pm

No I feel sorry for them I suspect their suffering from some debilitating psychiatric disorder unless their talking about something intresting about me (I'm the most intresting person I know) or me or me related activities than I to become mentally ill.


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06 Nov 2013, 8:44 pm

LupaLuna wrote:
Any of you ever feel like punching that used car salesman when he come swooping down on you like a Vulture and starts talking over your head and interrupting you so you can't say a thing.


yes retail in general and they say where mind blind :roll:


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