octobertiger wrote:
What you are saying is a sign of a fantasy of many people who feel they have been snubbed - 'I'll show 'em!'. It can be a call to arms, yes - but is it effective or actually detrimental to that person? It's like an ego salve. Self-improvement driven by ego will, in my opinion, always be for show and never be of substance.
IMO, a brilliant response
my turn!:
If one improves out of spite, they are no better than the person who rejected them and they deserve each other
If one improves after taking a time out and doing it earnestly to win someone's heart or just for themselves, then sure I guess that's okay. The person rejecting isn't always doing it because they are mean or shallow or because they dislike the person they are rejecting.
If someone improves empty traits to fit someone else's expectations, all the power to them but they should prepare to keep up an image at all times for that sort of person. For Aspies, almost always doomed to failure!