Parents all of a sudden wont let me watch what I want on tv
I am so upset because my parents are all of a sudden not letting me watch anything but educational tv and I didnt do any thing wrong. I am so upset because I have had cable tv and have been watching tv for years just fine and then all of a sudden my parents are saying I cant watch anything except for educational stuff and wont let me watch anything else. They never seemed to care before but now all of a suddent they do and I didnt do anything. Whn I asked why they wouldnt really answer.
This would be upsetting for any child. A parent lets their kid watch whatever they want on TV and then all of a sudden they decide to restrict it. Yeah that is going to be hard for them to get their kids to not watch TV and the kids will be mad and it will be hell for the parents. They should have restricted it from when you were a toddler, not waiting until this age to finally do it. That doesn't work with kids. It all has to start when they are young in their early years or else it will be harder to teach them when they are older because you had let them do their habits and getting away with it and then all of a sudden they have to change. My husband and I are having hell of a hard time getting our kid to bed and making him stay in bed all because we let him sleep with me and letting him stay up when he was an infant and one years old. Now it's a habit he needs to break and us parents need to be tough. I think he is getting better now. Two nights of a good nights sleep and staying in his room. I just have to avoid him when I get home or else he won't stay in bed and it will be hell for me trying to get him to stay in bed and then my parents can't sleep because of his screaming and crying.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed.
Daughter: NT, no diagnoses.
If jashley is still a dependent child, then her parents are within their rights to dictate what she can and can not watch on TV, or even if she should be allowed to watch TV at all.
It's THEIR house, THEIR TV, and THEIR electrical bills as well.
So, while I understand the situation, I do not see a problem.
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Your parents taking some concern for what you are feeding your brain is not a punishment.
You're just addicted to brain food that probably isn't good for you anyway and you're experiencing "withdrawal." Addicts frequently experience this when they go off their drug of choice. Once you develop new routines and develop alternative interests, you'll begin to feel better.
Educational TV has lots of interesting programming, and if you can't find something you like, there's always reading, writing, drawing, painting, physical activities, solving puzzles or learning to play a musical instrument. Once upon a time, there was no such thing as television and young people did not go insane for lack of things to do or stare at.
they may have been advised by someone or read somewhere that doing this would be beneficial for you. They are most certainly doing it because they think it will help you in some way - whether or not they are right is another matter.
Did you watch any porn lately? Any violent stuff? They could have reviewed your cable history and found something that made them feel concerned. Or it could be just the amount of time you are spending watching TV.
AS others have pointed out, if you are not living independently, you have to put up with whatever nonsense your parents are dishing out.
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It's THEIR house, THEIR TV, and THEIR electrical bills as well.
So, while I understand the situation, I do not see a problem.
It doesn't matter when it's implemented. Strict parenting creates problems:
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-t ... -parenting
Everything a parent decides to do with a child isn't automatically correct just because they're parents, and there's a world of difference between getting a child to bed at night and cutting a child off from culture.
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Ignore everyone making excuses. Or asking you to understand your parents' point of view. This kind of thing isn't helpful - taking choices away from you and controlling what you do with your life is abuse.
I don't know what to suggest as my experience is that people who engage in draconian measures tend to believe they have all the power and tend to be rather unsympathetic when said measures are not taken in stride.
I don't know what to suggest in your case OP. Your parents aren't behaving reasonably -- unless there's something you're not telling us about, like addiction to porn channels, or obsession over some particular type of programming. My own personal opinion is that living with your parents (especially at the age of 26) does not mean you should have to put up with any random crap they care to inflict -- you are an adult too, and your choices should be respected.
I take it there is only one TV in your house? Could you not get one for your room, and take out a private cable subscription? My view would be that if you're paying for it yourself, it's no-one else's goddamned business what you watch.
If their attitude toward your TV viewing is symptomatic of a generally over-controlling attitude by them, I'd investigate the possibility of moving out.
It's THEIR house, THEIR TV, and THEIR electrical bills as well.
So, while I understand the situation, I do not see a problem.
It doesn't matter when it's implemented. Strict parenting creates problems:
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-t ... -parenting
Everything a parent decides to do with a child isn't automatically correct just because they're parents, and there's a world of difference between getting a child to bed at night and cutting a child off from culture.
My mom never let us watch lot of TV so I didn't even watch lot of shows growing up and some people online act so surprised I didn't watch shows like family Matters or Full House or Rosanne. I just didn't watch lot of TV in my childhood because my mother wouldn't let us. She only allowed one hour of TV a day and she would only have us watch educational shows so I got to watch lot of PBS so I saw kid shows on it like Sesame Street, reading Rainbow, Mister Rogers Neighborhood. But I turned out fine and it didn't create problems and it was my father that let us watch more TV. I didn't get to grow up in front of the TV like some kids did and I didn't miss it one bit because I didn't know any difference. I don't think my mother was all that strict because I have hears of stricter rules.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed.
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Okay wow. I don't know what to say then. I thought you were a child because of them restricting your TV use. I have never heard of it being done to a grown up.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed.
Daughter: NT, no diagnoses.
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In that case, you are within your rights to either get your own TV or move into your own place and set your own rules - in that order.
But as long as you "live under your parents' roof", you would do well to respect their wishes.
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