aspergers, slow to get over an EX
My Aspie fiancé got over his ex wife pretty quick, lol! She was so hateful and mean to him and he stayed because he thought that's all he could get and also I was married to my ex at the time. He told me he has always loved me and nobody else. His ex was opening up accounts in his name and running them up and not paying them. That has hurt his credit. He is so gullible that he didn't even realize it. I stepped in and got her on fraud with those companies. I think it just depends on the relationship.
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i dont understand how so many aspies cant get over people.
My experience, the first time i ever moved away from home it took me 6 weeks just to ring and let them know id arrived safely at the other end of my train journey.
I remember ending my first relationship with a girl who was totally loved up with me by just not ringing her for 6 months.
I always thought aspies were self obsessed and self interested.
Out of sight, out of mind is the usual way it works for me.
i always thought of myself as a cold hearted bastard that had to learn how to be socially minded, which i only reasoned was worth it because i felt i was doing the most selfish thing i could by being nice to people so theyd be nice to me back.
cant anybody relate to that way of being?
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there are unsentimental aspies like yourself, and painfully sentimental ones like myself, and never the twain shall meet. they even occupy different parts of the political spectrum.
there are unsentimental aspies like yourself, and painfully sentimental ones like myself, and never the twain shall meet. they even occupy different parts of the political spectrum.
haha, you seem pretty reasonable minded to me, ive not disagreed with a post ive read by you so far.
i think with me its the adhd and autism at war with itself. My dad was a womanizer adhd type personality, my mum was a quiet aspie. I know how to be caring but at the same time i have this cold dead part of me inside.
a cousin of mine has actually questioned whether ive ever cried in my life. i have obviously, but it must be the kind of impression i give off irl.
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my dad was the same way. and my mom the same way as your mom. I give off vibes of "cold dead" also, I have been told repeatedly that I am "unapproachable." this pisses me off as I cannot for the life of me figure out how I could be unapproachable, other than the fact that I neither transmit nor receive body language.
I had to reply to this post - I have often wondered why it has taken me so long to get over an ex. The first one took maybe five years, and the new one is still a year on without much change in my feelings on the situation.
My problem is that I do move on, I find a new partner very quickly but I am never able to forget the one before who I had strong feelings for. One time I had tried to move on with several different partners (not simultaneous) but still the memory of the last one stayed with me and I would doubt the relationship I was in.
I have no idea this was related to AS and I think I will have to re-plan what I do a little.
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well at least now you are a fortunate man.
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