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Are you more attracted towards dominant or submissive men?
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03 Jan 2014, 5:27 pm

Which kind of men do you find yourself to be more attracted towards? From what I've read, it's overwhelmingly common amongst the NT women that they are attracted to dominant men. It got me kinda worried because I'm not dominant at all and I'd prefer someone who could take the lead.

However I've also read reports from some autistic women that they have found themselves to be attracted to the shy nerdy types, I wondered if such preferences are more common amongst the autistic women. It would make some sense, for example I read some studies that the autistic women have higher testosterone levels than the NTs.

If you can, please base your answers on what you've felt towards men, not what you might theoretically find the most attractive.



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03 Jan 2014, 5:39 pm

Attracted to subs for the most part, we seem to mesh better.


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03 Jan 2014, 6:12 pm

Well, ideally, I would prefer as an equal treatment in the sense of not being submissive all the time-me not being submissive all the time-...Something in between. That would be the best. So, yes, I´d be attracted to being equal in this sense. :)



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03 Jan 2014, 6:47 pm

To be completely honest, I'm attracted to doms but most men don't have what it takes to be a dom. So I'd rather be with a sub rather than a dom-wannabe.



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03 Jan 2014, 7:08 pm

Neither.


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03 Jan 2014, 9:57 pm

I echo the opinions of those who wish to be with an equal.



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04 Jan 2014, 12:13 am

To be honest, I'd prefer submissive for men, but with the potential to switch on occasion. Gotta shake things up ever so often.


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04 Jan 2014, 12:24 am

I wanted someone who could push back against me when I lost my temper or became impassioned about a topic, but I also wanted someone who would listen to me (and generally follow my choice) when I feel very strongly about a decision in our lives. So somewhere in between-- I wanted an equal.



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04 Jan 2014, 5:46 am

No preference, because even dominant types have to become submissive if they want to live with me without experiencing my rage outbursts : 3



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04 Jan 2014, 6:56 am

I prefer a kind, considerate person (man or woman). Not sure which option that would be. I guess a submissive one is a bit easier to live with. I'm pretty bossy myself.


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04 Jan 2014, 8:16 am

Not everything is black and white. You can't just class people as either dominant or submissive.

Most of us are somewhere in between and want someone in between the two extremes.

However, no one wants to be someone's mother if they are looking for a grown up husband or partner. They don't want to be a PA either. They want to be with a responsible adult that can remember to pay a bill when it needs to be done, they don't want to be the person always having to remember stuff, like when to take the car to the mechanic when it's time for a service.

If one person in the relationship always needs to be the responsible party they will get drained easily and feel used and will resent the one who never lifts a finger.



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13 Jan 2014, 4:32 am

Ideally I'd like it to be equal but I am attracted more to submissive then dominant. I have been attracted to dominant on some occations.



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14 Jan 2014, 10:20 am

hurtloam wrote:
Not everything is black and white. You can't just class people as either dominant or submissive.

Most of us are somewhere in between and want someone in between the two extremes.

However, no one wants to be someone's mother if they are looking for a grown up husband or partner. They don't want to be a PA either. They want to be with a responsible adult that can remember to pay a bill when it needs to be done, they don't want to be the person always having to remember stuff, like when to take the car to the mechanic when it's time for a service.

If one person in the relationship always needs to be the responsible party they will get drained easily and feel used and will resent the one who never lifts a finger.


Yes! Vanilla relationships need a dominant and a submissive like a lesbian relationship needs a man and a woman.

I've never looked at anyone I've had feelings for as dominant or submissive. They were just people who were too shy to ask me out, who were much more outgoing and comfortable with themselves than me, etc. Dominant and submissive are power words.



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17 Jan 2014, 7:43 am

Somewhere in between. But if I had to choose one of the extremes it would be submissive for sure, since dominant guys are unbearable most of the time. Also I like the shy, nerdy, reflexive, naive type. No, I'm low in testosterone.