Do you think life is worth living when you're ugly?

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I am ugly -- I look into the mirror and I see someone who most closely resembles Gargamel's grandfather ... gimpy walk ... deformed left hand ... stooped posture ... grey hair ... crooked teeth ... ugly ...

But my wife loves me. I'm employed, and able to support us both. I donate time and money in service to those less fortunate. I can play piano, clarinet and violin (not all at once, of course).

Some people even claim to like me, in spite of my obvious lack of attractive features.

I guess there is some truth to the maxim that "Beauty is as beauty does" -- in my case, at least.

What actually matters is if you're beautiful inside.

Some of the main things that made humans sucessful was their ability to manipulate things to adapt to their environment or move to better ones.

Being percieved as ugly is definately one of the suckiest burdens/problems. I think you are on the right track though as far as improving the situation, and others have mentioned a useful response or two. That being taking actions (ie. being in shape) that enhance other areas of attractiveness and confidence. Possible surgery. Someone mentioned adopting a non-standard style.

One thing I might add is the factor of relativity. Accross the whole spread of humanity there is greater subjectivity as far as beauty and ugliness goes. Just as a hypothetical example, if you were to move to Mongolia you might not find as much bias based on your features as to them you are from a group that is alien to begin with and more or less all looks the same. And your features might not clash with their own sensibilities as much to begin with. Though you would, I should add, still have the problems of cultural differences and biases to deal with. But even a lesser move might bring significant change. I wonder if doing some traveling might turn up places less biased against you.

I could also add there are many in the same boat as you. Good people trapped in unpopular packaging. Usually males take the initiative in dating, but this is one situation where a male might have their confidence in shreds and some prompting on your part would be useful and appropriate in the circumstances.

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But maybe I can take the opportunity to actually answer your thread title question.

Ugliness has absolutely no degrading effect on quality of life in the physical sense. It doesn't effect how your walk, or think, or eat your peas and carrots. Its negative effects are all due to peoples perceptions and arbitrary valuations based on them.

So yes life is worth living and F*** them if they want to behave like immature kids.

Anyone who would bully someone because of their appearance isn't good enough for you, so please don't let them upset you! You should focus more on who you are on the inside and what you like about yourself there.

Sure it is. I'm ugly as a hairless dog, who cares? (honestly, I am) Life isn't worth living being extremely insecure and self-conscious though.

The way I see it, looks don't count. I'm not ugly but I still lack confidence, which makes me lack friends and miss opportunities in life and feel isolated and depressed, which then makes me give off the wrong vibes that make people turn away even when I smile.

With my daemon looking jagged stubs of teeth and my creepy face I am not a looker by a long shot. More to life than looks.