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27 Jan 2014, 12:00 pm

So it's known that aspies create their own worlds. Mine, for a very long time has been a world where all of my book characters are (I'm a writer). My family often told me (before they knew I had Asperger's) that I was way too old to have "imaginary friends" but if I tried to leave that world and do as they wanted, I would find myself back, like I couldn't quite cope without having this world. It wasn't like I wasn't doing everything else they asked, like socializing as much as I could until I started panicking or getting out of the house or whatever. So my question is: is it okay to have this world? Are the NT's being too misunderstanding? Or are they right? Is it something that I should try to grow out of? I mean personally I feel like it's the only place I can really be myself and not be pressured to be "normal" like the NT's. Any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated!



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27 Jan 2014, 12:22 pm

I am not entirely sure what to say, except that, if you enjoy being in your world, find it helpful, and it doesn't interfere with your day-to-day life, then I see no reason why there is necessarily something wrong. :?
I suppose it's understandable that family might be concerned, as it sounds like something they don't experience, so maybe don't really understand. Is there anyone else who knows you well, that might be able to give their opinion?

Your world sounds nice. :)


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27 Jan 2014, 12:31 pm

Though I have much older siblings, I was pretty much brought up as an only child. None of them lived in the house. When I was 4, I had an imaginary friend named Andy. I would talk to him when I was in the house, when my mom and I were walking somewhere, etc. One day I wrote my parents' names, my name, and "Andy" on the mailbox in pencil one day. I still have my alternate worlds, but they do not at all interfere with my normal life.


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27 Jan 2014, 12:34 pm

Thanks! It is pretty great. ;) I'm pretty close to my mom but she was one of the ones who tried to get me to stop with the world. Partly because when I'm really not wanting to be close to someone or friends with someone I start talking about my characters like they're real. It's actually kind of a test I guess. To see if the person I'm talking to thinks I'm too crazy to be friends with or if they accept it it allows me to connect with them. But I always make it obvious that the characters are....well just that. Characters. I don't ever try to convince people they're real, rather if they play along with me then I know they are trustworthy. It's confusing....



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27 Jan 2014, 2:11 pm

Corndawg wrote:
So it's known that aspies create their own worlds. Mine, for a very long time has been a world where all of my book characters are (I'm a writer). My family often told me (before they knew I had Asperger's) that I was way too old to have "imaginary friends" but if I tried to leave that world and do as they wanted, I would find myself back, like I couldn't quite cope without having this world. It wasn't like I wasn't doing everything else they asked, like socializing as much as I could until I started panicking or getting out of the house or whatever. So my question is: is it okay to have this world? Are the NT's being too misunderstanding? Or are they right? Is it something that I should try to grow out of? I mean personally I feel like it's the only place I can really be myself and not be pressured to be "normal" like the NT's. Any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated!


i'm a writer too but only as a life long hobby. I haven't had imaginary friends but in my world I am alone and I like it that way. In my world I see things very differently which shows up in my writing and people often don't understand it. I say if you enjoy your world to just live in it. It's what has gotten me this far as a coping mechanism. Without it I would have broken down as a child and been unable to function. Do what makes you the happiest I say.


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27 Jan 2014, 7:48 pm

It is perfectly alright to have an imaginary world as you are describing it, because of the fact that you know that it is imaginary. Even though you may get swept up in it, you obviously have a good handle on it at the same time. (NT's like to daydream too btw). And what you are talking about seems a lot healthier than getting drunk or stoned as a means of escape.



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28 Jan 2014, 9:13 am

Aside from my own imagination I too am a writer and just like to dream up my own world when something in my regular life is bothering me.



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31 Jan 2014, 1:11 pm

definitely! I find ironically I understand the characters in my world more thoroughly than the people around me, and sympathise with them too. It's as if in my own world, I function as an NT.



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31 Jan 2014, 3:14 pm

My inner world is an amazing landscape of ideas. But it's also a dangerous place where worry and rumination prowl like roaring lions, ready to devour me.



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31 Jan 2014, 3:47 pm

I have a film. It's not my favourite film, but it is a film from my childhood that I relate everything in my real life to. All the people, the events and everything in my life corresponds to this one particular movie.

It's the only thing that helps me understand what is going on in my life and it helps me know that I am in the right place.

It is a bit odd I suppose.

I also have two guardians, they have only just recently came to me, I think they must have come from another universe. I think they might be like imaginary friends. The y are guardians to me, that's how they seem to present themselves. They are only there to help me understand what is going on in my life. I find them to be a comfort.


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31 Jan 2014, 4:10 pm

Who are the guardians? Angels? Do you see them?



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31 Jan 2014, 4:13 pm

I don't think they are angels. I don't see them but I know what they look like. They're tall and all dressed in black with white bald heads.

I think I've just made them real in my own little world. I like them, they ok.

Everyone's gotto have someone.


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31 Jan 2014, 4:19 pm

I don't have my own world. I almost wish I did. I'm too in competition with the social NT world.


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31 Jan 2014, 4:23 pm

I don't think I can manage in the real world if I didn't mingle it in with a fantasy world.


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31 Jan 2014, 4:34 pm

I have this imaginary world where everything resolve around me. I'm immortal and can manipulate other people's mind.

Basically it's a world I created out of my fears I would say. I always been afraid of death(until recently) as far as I can remember and being able to manipulate people's mind is probably a result of me being afraid of social interaction because it's unpredictable.