buffinator wrote:
most people feel somewhat shy and embarrassed the first time. How your body looks on the outside doesn't really effect who you are on the inside and everyone has insecurities.
This is why people build relationships over time so they trust their partner before they open up to them sexually. Conversely this is why people 'hook up' with strangers who have no ties to their lives and they will never see again and cannot interfere with their social lives.
It all depends on the context.
I have very little experience, but I think that what "buffinator" has written is good advice.
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We, the people on the Autistic Spectrum have a choice.
We can either try to "fit in" with the rest of society, or we can be so egocentric that we can't be bothered.
I choose the actor. I observe NT's. I listen to their socializing. I practice it, so in social situations I can just emulate/mimic what is expected.
It isn't natural for me, but it enables me to "fit in".
It is VERY tiring and draining, but at least we can appear like them even though it is an act. Like being on the stage.
They can't see it is emulation, and so we are accepted.