occasional anxiety over doing embarrassing things in past

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Yes, I have about 5-6 episodes each day of recalling past faux pas.

Fortunately, these days rather than ruminate on them they each last about 5 seconds. I can usually dispel them by saying something to myself like:

"Oops! Oh well, I did the best that I could at that time."

It is helpful to then make a mental note of how I might avoid doing that again in future.

I do this all the time and it sometimes keeps me up at night. To get rid of them and try and ignore them I do things like: put my head in a pillow and scream, splash cold water on my face, slap my face and also close my eyes and make a mental image of my brain being swept with a brush so the bad thoughts get swept away, while making a "swoosh" noise.

-When I was fifteen, I had developed a new interest in sex and childbirth. My mom was a nice enough woman, but she'd always tell me the same story about my birth (it was long and painful). Since I wanted a more, can we say, informative take on what sex and childbirth were like, I'd ask any reasonably intelligent woman I knew extremely invasive questions. I think the best one was, "How much did it hurt to give birth to your child?"

I do this constantly and it makes me feel horrible. I really do try to stop but it's hard. It got easier when I was on Prozac (helped control my obsessive thought) but I'm not on any medication now and I prefer it that way, (I feel much better in general).

However, I constantly relive embarrassing and stupid things that I have done in the past. Especially stuff that happened in the last 4 years. I did a looooot of stupid things.
I was addicted to k2, weed and DXM from 18-20, but I didn't do TOO many stupid things directly related to that but there were a few things. 99% of my painful and embarrassing memories stems from the horrible relationship I had at the time where she was psychologically abusive and treated me like sh!t.

Then from 20-21, after successfully quitting the use of those three drugs, I abstained from drug use but then became a raging alcoholic. Now I have humiliating and embarrassing moments of me crying, raging at people, breaking stuff.. and God knows what else I did in that state, most of which I don't even want to know.
I used to wander around the dorms drunk, pounding on my friends' doors. I'd pass out in countless friends' bathrooms. One time I even peed on the carpeted floor in my dorm room (and I had a roommate) and then passed out with my pants down in the puddle of piss only to be woken up by my attractive female RA the next day.

I try to forget about all those things by telling myself that everyone does stupid, embarrassing things and at least I don't see any of those people anymore. And to make matters better I'm moving thousands of miles away to a new state in about a month so I'll DEFINITELY never be seeing any of those people again.
Now I get to meet a whole new bunch of people.. Those of which will never know that raging alcoholic side of me since I've now stopped all use of drugs and alcohol. I stopped drinking exactly 11 months ago and stopped k2, DXM and weed almost 2 years ago now.